Posted by:
iwenttothewoods
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Date: May 08, 2014 02:48PM
Ok, so I would just like to preface this with: I am not thinking of dying anytime in the near future. I am a young adult with a lot ahead of me and to look forward to.
That said, unexpected tragedies and accidents can occur, and in the instance that something did happen, I want to be sure that my Mormon parents and extended family would absolutely NOT have the ability to give me a traditional LDS funeral.
I just finished reading an absolute horror story of an LDS funeral that was a "ra-ra-ra we have the plan of salvation" event, and I have attended many funerals similar to that where they spend time honoring the deceased's religion rather than the deceased individual.
Granted, I am atheist/agnostic/secular so I don't believe in any sort of an afterlife-- so you may be wondering why I should care if I believe I wouldn't exist after-the-fact... That's a valid point, but I believe our legacy in life is all we have left at the end of our lives, and honoring the legacy of a person (be it good or bad) should be what funerals are all about.
The last thing I would want (heaven forbid I should outlive my folks) is my Mormon parents to absolutely disregard my open and vocal secularism and give me a Mormon funeral with Mormon hymns and Mormon talks, put me in a coffin, bless the grave, etc.
If I specify how I want my funeral put together, does it legally have to be honored? (I have a feeling my parents would disregard my wishes if I left them DO-NOT list anyways.)
How does the state handle bodies? Do they just turn them over to the nearest family member? Can you legally specify who you want your body turned over to or NOT turned over to? Are the involved parties legally obligated to honor your funeral arrangement requests? What happens if requests of the deceased are violated? How do you formally set up post-humus arrangements?
Can you request that no family members be notified of death, and if you could do that, how would the state handle your remains?
I know this all sounds really morbid, but I figure we all have to end up thinking about this one day, and better early than late, lol!!