Posted by:
Recovered Molly Mo
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Date: May 17, 2014 01:27PM
Bouncing up and down and clapping hands here in AGREEMENT.
OP is not saying all LDS men are gay. GAWD. Reread post.
YES! I have known LDS men for years that I was thought were exactly as you described.
I have known many good, beautiful women who were with spouses that I really thought were beneath them in many ways, but they had that LDS stamp of approval.
One of my dearest friends, married the wimpiest man. She told me before her marriage he was her "Dream". He was the typical blonde, blue-eyed, big LDS family, returned Missionary, Temple recommend holding Dream.
She got pregnant on her wedding night. Also her "Dream".
Three kids later, she was telling me she wanted a divorce.
She opened up, crying, and letting me know she was so disappointed with him. He was the biggest wimp, had no social skills, no home skills, was verbally abusive and in the lovemaking department- all he knew was where the penis goes.
So yeah, you CAN have an aggressive and EFFEMINANT man!
She eventually did what a lot of women do, she got counseling, lost weight, got a make-over, and joined some clubs that were meaningful to her. He accused her of having an affair.
I never knew what happened to her, because she stopped speaking to me when I left the LDS ChurchInc. But my heart still thinks of her and hopes she is happy.
OP is observing how "mismatched" some couples are I suspect. How do these smart, beautiful, well-rounded women get these wimpy guys? My theory is that ChurchInc. approval convinces these ladies that is all they need and the rest will come later.
On the flip side, I HAVE seen some very masculine males in the church who were viewed as sexual deviants. Why? I do not know?!
Is it a swagger? Pheremones? I think being sexually attracted to someone in the church is to be feared..and the one who brings it out of you is often the source of the problem.
Perhaps, some women choose effeminate partners, because they are seen as having more "control" sexually, when really they have less testosterone/drive? Just a thought.
Discuss.
RMM