Hi all.. I've been absent from the board the most part for almost two months, only occasionally popping in here, and quickly scanning the top headers.

First, to all those who're doubting that strawberryshortcake's situation would not as she has described it here: I can assure it is accurate, and that she is a quite real, young woman. :) As I briefly noted in the "For strawberryshortcake" thread, the advice is good, but situations vary. It is not always possible to make a change as quickly as it might seem reasonable from the outside, not knowing the individual situation. Also, when someone is looking to get feedback and advice, the timetable on how things will unfold is often unknown, and also often in these situations unpredictable as we don't control our TBM spouses (or really have any desire to do so). I think as long as there is progress and a plan on how to improve the circumstances, even if it takes a while, that is good.

And then a quick update for all those who I discussed my situation in the early part of this year: My marriage is continuing its slow downward spiral. DW is quite a hardcore TBM, I have found (even more so than I perhaps earlier realized), and I'm now officially an "evil apostate" who "disrespects her faith" by not being active in TSCC, and by not funding their real estate projects. I don't think there is fixing it, and I'm just trying to keep the marriage together for a while for the sake of the kids (which I know many people say is "not worth it at cost of one's own happiness", "children adapt", and they do, but again, demands of the individual circumstances vary). But this will change, sooner or later. There is time for everything, as they say.

('ensure' is a product name, 'assure' is the word I was looking for.. suppose they've succeeded in advertising! ;)



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Thanks, Tao. I'm glad that you and strawberry are being supportive of one another. It's difficult to be in either of the situations you two are dealing with.

Divorce sucks, but living for years in a dead marriage with religious issues sucks, too. Sometimes, you gotta do what's best for you no matter what other people tell you to do.

I hope things go well for both of you!

How do we know that this isn't another one of strawberries names? ;) TOTALLY kidding. Thanks for the update though. I hope you both find your way out of the messes you're in. You're right though, the timetable is different for everyone.

I told her before posting that someone would say that! ;)

Thanks Tupperwhere & icedtea! :)

HAHA!! Seriously, good luck to both of you and your families. Kids ultimately want to be taken care of by happy parents.

'ensure' is a legitimate verb. It's OK to use it ...

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/ensure

Ragnar, thanks for pointing that out. It must be an ESL thing for me ;).

I am glad you two have each other for support and friendship. I agree-- only you can decide when you are ready to leave and how you will do it. I have been criticized d
For staying in my marriage by well meaning friends and family. I understand they do it out of love and frustration. Hang in there.