Posted by:
lily
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Date: November 23, 2010 08:14PM
So, here's a follow up on the thread about my mother being in the hospital.
I went down and spent 5 days with my brother and SIL. While we spent a lot of time just goofing off, as usual, we also spent time together just talking.
The one person in the world who knows what I went through (and went through it too) sat there with me and said if I needed him to go with me, he'd go, but he'd support any decision I made.
We talked a lot about how we both felt about it, if we thought we'd have regrets later, etc. In the end we decided not to go. And, more specifically, we didn't even call to find out more details.
We feel that, like some of you said, life is for the living. Neither of us had anything to say to her, and there's nothing she could say to us that could make any difference at this point. And there is NO way I'm willing to sit around and listen to a bunch of people talk about what a wonderful woman she was.
So we drank and laughed and talked and had a great time and came to peace with our decisions. It was awesome.
Though, it is a little weird to surf the obits to see if she has finally bit it.