Posted by:
Nightingale
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Date: June 24, 2014 12:47AM
Often it is how we perceive a situation that may be skewed, for whatever reason, and another day we may find that we see things differently. That happens to me quite often.
And yes, even though this is "just" an online discussion board it can get to feel like community of a sort. I have felt hurt at times by things people have posted. It can feel like you've bonded with certain posters and then there is emotion involved, for some of us at least, concerning our interactions on the board.
But the solution has to be with ourselves. After many yrs here, I can say that the chances of changing other posters or how the board works or the flow or dynamics of the board are very low.
So instead we have to go with the flow and, most importantly, find our resources and places of comfort in real life for the most part.
True enough, some posters and lurkers come at it in more of an emotional way, due to their experiences and needs at that time, and their issues are different from others who approach the board in a more cerebral way, enjoying the exchange of ideas and the discussions, not necessarily needing the emotional support that other posters are looking for at certain times. I think that explains a lot about how different people have such varying experiences with the board. Still, it is up to ourselves how we interpret and react to our interactions with other posters. As I said, they aren't going to change to suit us, especially when so much of the time our emotional needs are invisible. No doubt many of us have longed for support at certain times and it hasn't been forthcoming. I don't see that as a failure of the board or its participants. It's just the luck of the draw really, at which times we post and who is on board then and takes the time to respond to our words. Even then they may not say what we want to hear.
I used to get really upset when I first started posting at the idea that there was anything to laugh about regarding Mormonism, as I was still feeling hurt and down and embarrassed and questioning and ignorant about it all. As time has gone by, I have enjoyed the humour and lighthearted attitudes more. I realize it's me that has changed, not others, due to a wider perspective with time.
That likely doesn't help someone who is hurting at this moment, for whatever reason, but it's the viewpoint I have now after 10+ yrs of posting here. I hope that in general most people who stop by have a positive experience here, whatever they feel they need at any given moment.