Posted by:
Tal Bachman
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Date: June 25, 2014 02:59PM
Lots of comments on the original post (http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,1304556). Just a few replies.
With regards to the protests that I shouldn't share opinions on what "self-respecting women" ought to do on grounds I'm a man - if we applied that very same logic to other situations, we should have to say that *women* should never share opinions on how "self-respecting men" should behave; or perhaps, any men, anywhere. And that, of course, would include the many complaints that women have about the all-male Mormon priesthood. That would silence Katy Kelly herself.
So I disagree with this view. We are all human; we are allowed to share views; and some Stalinist insinuation that a member of the opposite sex should shut up on an issue only because they are a member of the opposite sex is unfair and unreasonable.
In this case, we have a movement led by a woman who continues to spiritually fellate a sex predator by repeatedly announcing how sincerely she believes in him and his demeaning, idiot religion - which has a shameful history of the most outrageous sexism, racism, and control-freakism - and how much she wants to keep on being a member of it. (Her male followers, the Dehlins of the world, are doing the same). And for all those people who keep typing on here that they are "certain" that Kate Kelly knows it's a fraud, Kelly herself keeps saying she's a sincere believer. NO, this is not all a big strategy to bring the church down. She and her followers are still sincerely under the impression that Joseph Smith's religion is real; and their behaviour is granting validity to an entity which should be denied it by everyone.
This is my complaint. I don't want to see a female slave talking about how slavery's great, how she wants to remain a slave, how God made slavery, how God wants her Master to be her Master, how she loves the meager rations and long work hours and beatings...but wonders if there's a way the overseer could stop raping her quite as often? It's demeaning. It implies total brainwashing. It grants validity to a totally illegitimate institution. CLEARLY, that woman (and the men who support her) is missing something important. If they want to be slaves, great - if they want to remain slaves because they are still under the mistaken impression that "God wants them to be slaves", because their rapist slavemaster told them as much and they believe him, yes, I have a problem with that. And so should everyone on here. It doesn't matter that I have a penis, just like it doesn't matter that you have a vagina. We have brains, and hearts. That's what matters.
In a way, THIS is the big moment for the Katy Kellys and John Dehlins of the world. This is their moment to stand up and say, "You know...I've loved being a Mormon; but I'm not going to go on. This religion is not what I thought it was, and not what I want it to be. And so, with sorrow in my heart, but with full determination in the rightness of my decision, I walk away from it. I excommunicate the demeaning, fraudulent, sexist, racist, control freak, spiritually abusive institution that is Mormonism; it does not excommunicate me".
But what instead I am hearing is "sobs" (Katy Kelly's own word), and plea to be allowed to remain in a spiritually abusive, sexist organization, founded by a sex predator and borderline pedophile.
That is self-abasing behaviour, and I don't like it, and neither should anyone on here. It shows that Kelly (and Dehlin) have been *broken* by this thing, like Winston is broken by Big Brother at the end of "1984". They love the bully; they only love the bully to bully them a bit less. Screw that.
Whether a critic has a penis or a vagina doesn't matter. The spiritual abuse by Mormonism, and its validation, does. We ought to be united on that - "Katy and John, we sympathize with your struggle, but we do not sympathize with you granting validity to a fraudulent, abusive organization. It does not deserve you, and you should leave". It's that simple.
Just my two cents.