Posted by:
ExMoBandB
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Date: July 09, 2014 03:08AM
I think that the cult does the most damage to the members who took it the most seriously, who tried the hardest to be perfect. I was like that, too, Lenina.
In answer to your question, no, you are not crazy. Mormonism is a crazy-making CULT. Yes, it can be emotionally and spiritually destructive, and worse the longer you are in it. Once you leave, the Mormons try to threaten, intimidate, and shun you. I promise you, that life outside of the CULT is much happier. You will find love outside the CULT. You are on the right path.
Cognitive therapy helped me. A non-Mormon Psychiatrist was recommended to me by a psychiatrist friend of mine (I didn't want to go to a friend for therapy). Ask your doctor to recommend a few, and you choose your own. Therapy can change your world view.
I was surprised at how much love there is in the world outside of Mormonism! People have your back. Friends are true. Most non-Mormon businesses are honest. You need go change your world view from negative and frightening, to positive and welcoming. Remember, you have been brainwashed to fear the world.
You need to get back your self-esteem, like BYUboner did. You can consciously work on this, by identifying the old Mormon voices in your head, and telling them to "shut up." The voices are there, internalized from your perfectionistic Mormon parents, the Primary teachers, the scriptures, joined in by your own voice. You can trace back where each judgment, each lie, each threat came from. This makes the brainwashing lose its power over you. Be patient with yourself. It does take time.
No one has a "perfect" recovery!