Everybody has a different libido. Sometimes it even ebbs and flows (hah!).
Seriously though, having a high sex drive isn't bad or abnormal. If you let it get in the way of your life though, then it is something that is bad and abnormal.
Yes, yes, and yes. Don't get too worried about it; but if it's all you seem to be doing, you may want to find more friends and activities. Surveys show "normal" healthy folks late in life enjoy a good wank!
Appreciate the input. It's just that masturbation seems counterfeit because there is nobody on the receiving end. Does that make sense? Perhaps that is where the guilt creeps in, and religion capitalizes on that feeling and calls it sin.
You should look up Post Ejaculatory Guilt Syndrome. Obviously jerking off feels good at the time, but afterwards, something about our body's chemistry can make us feel guilty. Just realize that guilt is unwarranted and that that doesn't mean you are this vile sinner. I do it myself--it's pretty normal for a man.
You really need to rethink this, your brain is playing tricks on you. What if you wear a condom? Who is "receiving" what now? I think you are way too focused on what you produce. I have met people with insemination fantasies and this is tiptoeing real close to that kind of weirdness.
I can't speak for females, but as a male frequent ejaculation wears me out (more than once a week). I went through a more frequent masturbation phase when I first gave myself permission to explore it. I think this was necessary to reach some kind of mental equilibrium from all those years of completely restricting it. But now I've come to a balance where once a week or less feels best.
Overall, I think it depends on the state of your health, hormones, metabolism, and the quality of nutrition you are taking in. I think a good rule of thumb for a guy is if you are getting spontaneous erections then your body has enough resources to devote to more frequent ejaculation, so it's not going to stress it out or take resources away from other important body functions.
If you are having to force arousal then I think that's a pretty good sign your body wants a rest and/or better nutrition.
Also, as a side note I think female sexuality is much more resistant to exhaustion than males for an obvious evolutionary reason. An undernourished, unhealthy male is prevented from impregnating a female, because he will be unable to be aroused enough to ejaculate and have healthy sperm. So men's libido is much more dependent on their state of health.
One other side note, I think the urge for masturbation and social bonding feel somewhat similar because they both involve oxytocin release. So if you are noticing an urge to masturbate 4 times a day long term and aren't getting much satisfying social bonding then you might want to consider focusing on getting more quality time with friends and family to make sure you aren't neglecting that area of your life.
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I am female and I do it almost everyday. Sometimes twice a day. I think it's healthy and normal. However I was having a discussion with my friend who thinks I'm a sex addict for doing it so often.
freckles Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I am female and I do it almost everyday. Sometimes > twice a day. I think it's healthy and normal. > However I was having a discussion with my friend > who thinks I'm a sex addict for doing it so often.
Freckles, I'm a 60 year old female and do the M once or twice a day. I'm sure it would be less frequent if I had a sexual partner. But clearly, I do not consider myself in any way a sex addict. (rolling my eyes at that one)
We were given arms long enough to reach our genitals, hands built to do the job, and the ability to experience pleasure and joy. NOTHING evil about that.
I'm a 44 old male and still like to once a day. When I'm in a relationship, I usually do it far less. I wouldn't call it guilt, more than a feeling of loneliness when you can't without a partner.
I'm 64 and have a wife, but we're apart right now because I'm working in another state. I feel perfectly justified doing solo sex. I hope she does as well, but it's not something we discuss. Maybe we ought to get into that new-fangled phone-sex stuff!
Self-love. Don't you love yourself? If you don't, it's probably because of religion. They love to make you hate yourself so you'll love their imaginary characters.
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From about age 10 to about 40, an average of over twice a day. Late teens and early 20s probably more like 3x per day. 40s about 10x per week. 50s about 5-6 times per week.
Hate to break this to you but EVERYONE fantasizes. Fantasies and thoughts are not actions. Did it occur to you that your wife self-pleasures? Do you think she may fantasize about other men?
If you've got a strong relationship and she's open, you may want to talk about your fantasies. There's noting wrong with mutual masturbation and private wanking--except for the guilt. I wouldn't feel guilty about an enjoyable activity activity that psychologists and doctors (at least a preponderance of) tell us is a normal, healthy activity.
If you fear that your fantasizes may be too lustful, think about the wonderful times of making love with your wife.
Guys tend to have strong libidos and are biologically-programmed to create babies. Makes outside Mormonism often joke and talk a lot about jacking off. I remember a conversation at a Christian College I attended where all of us admitted doing the deed. When someone asked about how often, a wise kid said, I beat off as often as the rest if you do! In other words, several times a day when we were alone. The main difference between this dorm experience and my time at the Y was, at the Y no one ever joked or admitted they whacked their weenies. Too bad, we could have had a lot of fun conversations. Of course, then we probably would have used lewd language. And, according to Spencer Kimball would eventually become gay.
The only time it's really "abnormal" is when it's preventing you from engaging in other activities that you previously enjoyed. In other words, if you're choosing to masturbate over going to work/school, hanging out with friends, ect. then yeah it might be a problem.
Used 2 Believe Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Is it normal to masturbate daily? Sometimes twice > a day? And on occasion three or four times?
Depending on your age, yes to all of those. When I was a teen, I definitely whacked off at LEAST daily. Many times twice. Can't think of too many four... one real rare time, I had sex (and finished) five times in a 24-hour period.
Female mid 50s. First orgasm at 5 when I squeezed my legs together a certain way. Once or twice a week. Figured out the hand option when I was 12, then every night, sometimes two or three. Could have an orgasm between hitting the snooze button on my alarm clock. Had a high sex drive and met my match in college, we would have sex all night and then went to work with no sleep. And would do it again the next night but with a few hours of sleep. It was the summer of perpetual sex.
Medications and menopause put a huge hurting in my sex drive. Off meds, now masturbate about 5 times a week.