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Vote for Pedro
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Date: July 12, 2014 09:28PM
After a breach of a yearlong truce following my request for no contact from the church, I got a visit from the missionaries last night.
I remembered I have an email or three that the bishop sent to his personal list of all the main members of the local ward. Because he just copied and pasted addresses instead of creating a list, I have the email addresses of most of the ward, all together in one place.
I drafted up the following. Should I send it?
Dear Ward Members,
It's been a little over a year since I told the bishop I would no longer be attending church, and that any attempts to contact me or my family were not welcome. A couple of nights ago, the missionaries stopped by and informed me that unless I formally resigned my membership in the church, which I have not yet done, such visits would continue.
I left without warning, and I never told anyone why. I'm sorry if it caused any confusion. Some of you may be wondering how we're doing. Please allow me to put to rest any speculation about the circumstances surrounding our departure from the congregation.
When I left the church, it was like a huge weight was lifted off my mind and my soul. I have lost 35 pounds and I'm in the best shape of my life. I've been able to focus on the things that matter most. I enjoy the extra time with my family, and I've gotten raises and promotions at work. I relate better with other people now that I think of us as all the same, instead of the "us-and-them" mentality fostered by Mormonism and other high-intensity religions. And I have never in my life had greater moral clarity than I do now that I no longer have to reconcile Mormon doctrine with observable, objective reality. I feel honest.
I decided to leave after I read the Book of Mormon. I had, of course, read it many times before. But in January of 2013, I made a resolution to get through it again before my birthday in June. I was president of the Elders' Quorom at the time, so I thought it would be fun to invite the other guys to join me. Those who did were rewarded with a steak dinner at my birthday party.
The challenge brought me to a very different conclusion than I ever expected! When I got toward the end, and Moroni's famous "promise," I realized that I could have a spiritual experience on command if I wanted to. I had done it many times before, because that's how I had conditioned myself to think. I also realized that I would be affirming to myself that the Book of Mormon "true" even though I had never really considered any possible alternatives.
President J. Reuben Clark said "If we have the truth, it cannot be harmed by investigation. If we have not the truth, it ought to be harmed." Maintaining a belief by deliberately blocking any contrary information is dishonest and morally dangerous.
So I investigated. It turns out there are plenty of non-supernatural explanations for the Book of Mormon. Check out the Wikipedia article on the Book of Mormon (
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Book_of_Mormon ), and follow some of the links to related articles. Plenty of food for thought, and things they don't mention in the Sunday School manuals.
For more introduction to the "issues" people find when they start investigating the church, check out
http://www.mormonthink.com. A good summary was also written by a guy named Jeremy Runnells in his "Letter to a CES Director" (
http://www.cesletter.com ).
The Church knows about the issues, and has released some anonymous articles by LDS apologists to help members convince themselves it's still true. The psychological term for this is "motivated reasoning." They start from the assumption that the church is "true," and work backwards to build a case for it, discarding any inconvenient facts.
For me, the Book of Abraham is the most compelling evidence that Joseph Smith was a fraud, the "smoking gun." He claimed to have translated it directly from characters written on papyrus by Abraham's own hand. Even the church now admits that is not true. You can find it on lds.org. Here's the link:
https://www.lds.org/topics/translation-and-historicity-of-the-book-of-abraham?lang=eng Notice how they start with the assumption that it's somehow true, even if they're not sure how, and even though the evidence would lead any reasonable person to believe that Smith made it up as he went along.
Getting and maintaining a "testimony" of the claims of Mormonism requires the willful rejection of overwhelming and sound evidence that it is a fraud on all points. You have to start with a desire for it to be true, then systematically discard any contrary thoughts until you believe it. I fell into this trap for a long time. It's hard to realize that something as integral and foundational as a lifelong religion is not what you thought it was. That's why I left quietly and requested privacy.
Some of you may find this email unwelcome. I also found an uninvited visit from the missionaries, right at my daughter's bedtime, to be unwelcome after my explicit request for no contact. Turnabout is fair play, so consider us even.
I still don't want any contact from anyone at church who wants to "bring me back" or save me from my apostasy. Like I said, I'm much better off without Mormonism. I think some of you might be, too, and that's why I'm writing this. If any of you have questions or doubts that you feel like would get you in trouble with the church, know that you're not alone. Once you start questioning, you'll see a whole different side of the church and its doctrines. It's loaded with manipulative psychology to keep you in. For some people, it's hard to leave, but you can do it. There really is a big wide world on the outside and it's not so bad. If you need a sympathetic ear or some help transitioning to an authentic life, there are plenty of other people recovering from Mormonism. Seek and ye shall find!
Again, let me state that uninvited attempts to contact or visit us are unwelcome and will be unproductive. I will resign my membership if and when I choose.
Best wishes and best luck to all in whatever path you choose.
Sincerely,
Vote for Pedro