Greetings,

I don't know about the rest of you, but definitely could not do this only day's after what happened. Then again, who knows.

R,
I'm a Dinosaur

http://news.yahoo.com/teen-survivor-texas-shootings-says-slain-family-members-012500643.html

I love that she quotes Harry Potter as her source of hope.

It's encouraging that she quoted Harry Potter as her source of comfort and strength. It would have been very empty had she quoted some mormon translated (or not) scripture as a source of optimism, strength, or comfort.



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I think she's going to need a TON of counseling. It breaks my heart.

not my comments some got access to my computer



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That was low.

Totally uncalled for.

She is an amazing, wise young woman -- well trained in how to handle difficult situations, thanks to her parents, family, grandparents. They taught her well and she was a good student.
I don't know why people think everyone needs counseling. They don't. They are able to handle their lives quite well with their support system. She has a belief system that gives her hope.

you really don't think she may need help or to talk to someone after watching her entire family be blown away? I have strong beliefs too, but counseling certainly didn't hurt after my mom died.

I hope that Cassidy gets a lot of love. She will need it.

SusieQ, I don't know of many Americans that are "trained" by their parents and grandparents to deal with being inches away as their family is slaughtered execution style and knowing she is next.

Counseling can come in many different forms. Yes, family support is imperative. She will obviously have that, her faith, but there will most likely be some effects of PTSD that my not rear their ugly head till later in life. Right now she is a hero, she is alive, and that is enough for her.

But I think that most Americans will need some form of counseling to deal with this. Talking about what happened will be so important in the coming months and years.

I wish her well, and have found myself thinking about what happened and how that family must have felt.

My father died when I was about Cassidy's age, and I just went numb. Outwardly I was functioning quite well, but inwardly...nothing. I think I bit off the 5% of the pain that I could deal with and walled off the other 95%. Of course that other 95% comes back to haunt you later on.

I don't know why counseling has such a stigma. An empathetic, trained counselor can speed up the healing process. I don't see how you can lose your entire family and *not* need counseling. At a minimum, she has school counselors who will be more than willing to help her. I am sure that her teachers will work to get her in the pipeline if her family doesn't want to make other arrangements. I know that I would.

When I lost my father I had faith that I would see him again in the afterlife -- I still do. But even a strong faith only takes you so far. There are so many milestones that her parents and siblings will never see on this Earth -- prom, graduations, her first job, a wedding, her first child. In a way the loss gets harder as you get older. It hits you harder what was taken from you.

It wasn't the same with my mom, who lived a full life. I got a chance to fully know her as an adult, and we had a good relationship. I miss her, but I did have my time with her. But the loss of my dad has been for almost the entirety of my life.



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I'm quite confident, from what I have observed and read, that this young woman's extended family will be able to help and support her in processing what happened, just as they do, and direct her to any help she needs, if and when she needs it. Her core belief system will also sustain her. She has an incredible outlook that will help her also.

What her needs and choices are will be up to her and her support system. She is showing she is a survivor and will, in my view, continue to do so.



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She is doing quite well under the circumstances. Many would not be doing as well as she is.

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> She is doing quite well under the circumstances.
> Many would not be doing as well as she is.


That's my observation. Some people are inherently, strong survivors and do very well.
We have no idea what she will need in the future and I for one wouldn't begin to suggest what she needs. It's her life, her family, her support system.
Children can be amazingly resilient.

I suspect she is numb.

Of course, her supportive family will be immeasurably helpful.

She is NOT doing as well as she appears to be doing.

She is going to need a lot of counseling. There is no way she can have had the experience she has had and not have been deeply traumatized, the results of which can take years to manifest fully.

There is no way she has dealt with the loss YET. When my parents died, I didn't deal with it for a long time and they died of old age and I had the rest of my family with me. They told me the second year would be worse than the first and it was, because then you realize they really aren't coming back.

It doesn't matter what faith I had, the reality that they AREN'T COMING BACK TO THIS LIFE is pretty difficult.

She has a long road ahead of her. She has only just begun that road.

To OP: your subject line is confusing - I thought it was about a girl who survived after she had shot a trooper...

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> To OP: your subject line is confusing - I thought
> it was about a girl who survived after she had
> shot a trooper...


Yes, I noticed that also. I figured it was an error and read it like it was supposed to read. :-) Like putting in the verb!
It's a kind of super editing! :-)



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Haha. It always better in my head sometimes.

what a strong girl!!! Amazing she looks like nothing ever happened to her.

I think that the community support displayed for her will be an important part of her mental recovery. I can't begin to imagine the pain and emotional burden of losing one's entire family. People are different in their abilities to handle catastrophes like this. It appears that she's one of the strong ones. I just hope there are resources for her to make the long haul. Her extended family will hopefully support her.