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Posted by: bomonomo ( )
Date: July 13, 2014 12:16PM

I don't usually post here because my blog has been blacklisted and any post that includes a url there is wiped out. This post is something that I wish I had read when I started my journey out and I want to get it as widely distributed as possible. So I produce it here in it's entirety (minus the images).

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Faith crises are all the rage. Everybody’s talking about them. Okay, well not everybody. Mainly the people who have gone through them. Most other people are probably just wishing that the people who keep bringing them up would just go away. They are like the Debbie Downer of religious circles and your local family reunion.

Be that as it may, the chances are that at some point in your life you or someone you love will be faced with their own crisis of faith. Depending on what faith your crisis originates from the experience can be quite devastating. This post is going to give you a single simple trick to fixing a crisis of faith – but before I reveal this trick to you, there is some groundwork that must be laid involving what it means to “fix” a faith crisis.

The Crisis

What is a faith crisis? A faith crisis occurs when you discover factual information about your religion, its founder, doctrine or history, which would seemingly contradict the claims of that religion, thereby proving it to be false.

Level of Commitment

A faith crisis is modulated by the intensity of belief of the individual. Someone who is in a religion and remains skeptical of its claims and uncommitted to adherence of its rules would not likely feel much psychological trauma in discovering it to be false. In Contrast, someone who was a devout believer and deeply committed to religious adherence would have a much harder crisis because the depth of their personal commitment and identification with the faith is greater.

Flavor of religion

A faith crisis is further affected by the nature of the religion from which it arises and some religions are more traumatic to experience a crisis in than others.

For example, Unitarian Universalists primary goal is a “free and responsible search for truth and meaning” allowing each member to determine for themselves what their spiritual identity and relationship with the divine is. There are no set rules for how or what you should believe and no exclusive knowledge of the nature of God, existence or the universe is claimed. It would be difficult to have a traumatic crisis of faith in such a system, because in it you are guided by your own spiritual voice and do not rely on an external authority to lose faith in.

On the other hand, if you were a Jehovah’s Witness and lost a child to illness because you had been taught that blood transfusions were not approved by Jehovah, then in a crisis of faith you would have to face the possibility that the death of your child was not necessary - a potentially devastating thing to confront. Furthermore, there are many additional rules and restrictions that would have affected your life, family and identity which would demand a great deal of adherence from a devout believer. A crisis of faith in this religion would cause a faithful member to have to re-evaluate their entire life and would carry a much greater psychological trauma.

In general, the more a religion exhibits the following features, the more traumatic a faith crisis is:

- The religion/leaders are the sole source of Truth
- Members are God’s elect people
- Theology provides an exclusive path to salvation
- Teachings provide a high degree of direction in how members are to view the world, live their life and interact with others
- Special knowledge about metaphysical things like purpose of life, nature of God, humankind, afterlife

Religions that carry these features are considered “high-demand religions”.

The reason that religions with these strong characteristics can be so traumatic to undergo a crisis in is because members who shape their lives in and around the teachings of these religions make importance choices on the assumption that the claims of the religion are true. The more the dictates of the religion affect the choices of the individual, the more their identity is tied up in the faith. Discovering the faith to be a fraud then causes the individual to acknowledge that intimate aspects of the life and identity were shaped by deception.

Furthermore, the members have trusted that the special knowledge of the metaphysical world is also true and usually found comfort in those answers to life’s tough questions about where we come from, why we are here and what to expect after this life. If the faith that they have trusted so deeply turns out to be false – then they lose the comfort that special knowledge previously provided about their place in the universe. People describe it as having “the ground crumble beneath their feet” because they don’t know where they stand anymore – comforting knowledge they previously trusted disappears and they are left without a truth to rely on.

If you have not experienced such a feeling, do not underestimate the impact that it can have one someone who is going through it. It is a devastating psychological and emotional trauma that can only be understood by experiencing it first hand.
Faith Crisis Bad?
A faith crisis is not inherently a bad thing. To someone in a high-demand false religion a faith crisis is a necessary, although painful, ticket to liberation.
To most people in Religion A, a faith crisis is a good thing for someone in Religion B to go through. It frees people up so that they can be guided to the truth of Religion A. Religions that engage in proselytizing are actually engaged in a systematic effort to induce faith crises in members of other religions.

“Fixing” a crisis

While a crisis of faith can be a painful experience, it is not a final state of being – it is a transitional state. The waves of uncertainty and doubt that accompany a crisis will eventually subside, but only after the conflicts which gave rise to the crisis have been resolved. What are the forms that this resolution may take?

One way for a crisis to be resolved is reconciliation. In this way new understanding comes to the troubled individual which would help them reconcile the conflicting evidence which gave rise to the crisis in the first place. An apparent contradiction in scripture might be explained by further exploration of other scriptures. A troubling event in church history might be less controversial if viewed in the cultural context of that time rather than compared to modern social norms. Whatever the form of reconciliation, the key point is that the conflict that gave rise to the crisis is resolved with greater explanation and understanding. This is a relatively quick process for a single issue giving rise to a crisis, but can be a more lengthy and in-depth process when there are numerous conflicting issues to address.

Another way for a crisis to be resolved is by impeachment. In this way the troubled individual comes to the conclusion that the conflicts which gave rise to the crisis are legitimate and impeach the authenticity of their religion. This is a much more difficult resolution to come to because there is usually so much invested in the faith that there is a great deal of motive and incentive to find a way to maintain belief. Individuals that come to this resolution have usually gone through many cycles reconciliation with varied success, ultimately finding issues for which there was no satisfactory resolution. While this form of resolution can take the longest time to come to, once it is achieved the many other issues which may have demanded a great deal of explanation and apologetics quickly fall away because the individual is able to accept that the reason the conflicts exist is because the religion is false.

It is important to acknowledge that you cannot tell which form of fix is the desired form. “Wait! I thought this was supposed to be a trick to fix your faith crisis! Doesn’t that mean that it is a way to help me keep my faith?” You might think that is the correct way to approach a crisis of faith, but generally speaking if your concern is a pursuit of truth you must acknowledge that a strategy for resolving a faith crisis which is focused only on means to achieve reconciliation falls short.

To help explain, look at the difference between how you might view someone having a faith crisis in your own religion compared to someone having a crisis in another religion.

“Fixing” someone else’s crisis – Placation vs Liberation

When thinking about your own religion, you are likely to see these means of resolution as I have described them above – reconciliation and impeachment. Reconciliation sounds like a good thing, helping someone return to a state of faithfulness. Impeachment sounds like a bad thing – like they are casting off something in a negative way.

Now imagine we are talking about someone in a high-demand false religion who is discovering aspects of that deception. Reconciliation is no longer a good thing because it drags them back into the false system of deceit – it is better termed placation and is hopefully just a temporary thing. Impeachment is a good thing because it frees them from the false system of control – it is more appropriately termed liberation.
Any strategy to “fix” a faith crisis must have the power to reconcile people to truth, while liberating them from deceit. It must not placate the individual to get them to accept a lie and it must not impeach the truth.
We are almost ready to disclose that one weird trick which will help fix any faith crisis, but more explanation is needed first.

Make Believe

For the purpose of this exercise, we are not going to focus on your crisis of faith. Remember our goal to to show a trick that can fix any crisis of faith – not just your own in your particular religion. Instead, we are going to imagine that you are a member of some other religion and from that perspective we are going to evaluate how you would counsel a loved one who had gotten involved in some different religion which you knew to be false from your own perspective.

So, if you are a Jehovah’s Witness I want you to pretend that you are a member of the Unification Church (also known as “the Moonies”) and your son was recruited into the Church of Scientology. If you are a Scientologist, imagine that you were a JW and your daughter was taken in by the Moonies. If your religion isn’t listed here, just select one of these three and play make believe for the rest of this exercise.

Take a look at the triangle of dubious religions displayed here. If you imagine that you are in one of the religions, you can look out at the other two and know for sure that they are both false. This is because each of these religions has a mutually exclusive worldview with the others. If the JW’s are true, then Scientology and the Moonies are false. If the Moonies are true then JW’s and Scientologists are bunk and so on.

Perspective on your loved one

With this in mind I want you to consider how you feel about your loved one who is trapped in one of those other religions. I say “trapped” because each of these religions are high-demand religious groups. These religions require a great deal from their followers and there are strong social and psychological aspects that amplify the intensity of a faith crisis. Each of them also strongly discourage their members from reading or trusting any material that is not published by their own official sources. These powerful forces keep members from learning about the conflicting issues, asking questions or expressing doubt – minimizing the chance of a crisis of faith.

Knowing this you would likely feel a great deal of compassion for your son or daughter and want them to be able to discover the nature of the deception which is keeping them bound to that false religion. You want them to have a crisis of faith. Not because you want them to experience the trauma that goes along with that crisis, but because you know that in order to escape that false system and be free to find truth on their own, they must go through a faith crisis.

Rejecting what is wrong

Keep in mind that since you are pretending to be in yet another false religion yourself, you mustn’t be concerned that your child necessarily has to learn about your pretended religion in order to escape their own religious prison. You see – their escape from the deception of a false faith is not dependent on another faith being true. The lies, cover-ups, conflicting doctrine, deceptive practices and harmful effects of a false high-demand religion are the things which show that it is false and your loved one can come to that knowledge without having to immediately adopt another faith.

You don’t have to know the truth in order to reject a lie.

Think about Thomas Edison trying to discover just the right filament to put into a lightbulb. He need one that would last a very long time and not melt under its own heat. He tested thousands of different filaments. He didn’t have to already know the right filament in order to reject all of the filaments that were wrong. The wrong filaments were wrong regardless of what the right filament turned out to be.

The faith crisis arrives

Now that we have set the stage, imagine that your child comes to you one day and explains that they have come across some information which is causing them serious doubt about their faith. Their faith crisis has arrived. How would you advise them to proceed?

Tread Lightly

Remember that from your pretended perspective, it is obvious to you that their faith is false. You cannot simply tell this to your child, however. They may be still standing with a great deal of confidence planted in that faith and are simply discovering that the footing might not be sound. They likely still revere certain aspects of their faith and if you assertively exclaim that it is false, chances are that your loved one will perceive it as an attack. Each of these faiths have strong teachings about why and how members outside their religion will attack them for possessing “the truth”. Bashing their faith may simply recall these teachings to the mind of your loved one and give them reason to believe that your persecution is enough to prove to them that it is true, washing away what doubts they may have had.

Ways Of Overcoming Doubt

Instead, think about what such a person in a false faith is likely to encounter when they turn to the leaders of that faith with questions and doubt. Since we are playing make believe lets suggest that you tell your loved one to go and ask the leaders about their questions.

Your son or daughter earnestly and sincerely does this and they are directed to individuals in the organization who they are told are familiar with all this troubling history and have explanations that can help clarify and resolve those concerns. Your child does this and for each point of conflicting history and doctrine that is raised, an explanation is provided. Many of the explanations sound plausible. Others require more faith and patience, rather than understanding. The purpose of every explanation is reconciliation to the faith, however since we know these faiths are false – they are really just forms of placation.

Each of these explanations and rationalizations can be considered a different tool used to resolve doubts by placation. Let’s call them Ways Of Overcoming Doubt or WOOD tools for short. The apologists of these other false religions have whole metaphorical boxes full of these WOOD tools – each with the sole purpose to placate the questioner and keep them bound to their respective false religion.

WOOD tool examples

Doubts about things which are false are good! they represent truth finding its way in though a crack in the protective armor of lies that these false faiths build up around themselves. A strategy which causes someone to ignore such a doubt is one which actually works against truth. It perpetuates a lie. It snuffs out a earliest rays of the light of freedom before they have a chance to take hold. Such WOOD tools only have the power to placate – and they work no matter what religion you are in. Since these WOOD tools can be used to specifically shut out the truth from a seeker in a false religion, they have no place being relied upon by anyone who is sincerely devoted to discovering the truth no matter what faith they are in.

What do such Ways Of Overcoming Doubt look like? They are answers to questions which would keep someone in a false faith bound to that deception. This is only a small selection of the WOOD tools, but each of them have the power to quell doubt in a false religion, keeping the seeker trapped:

- “It’s not important for your salvation, don’t think about it anymore”
- “We weren’t there at the time so we can’t judge the actions of our founder and early leaders”
- “We can’t judge behavior in the past by today’s standards. Things which seem wrong today weren’t so bad back then”
- “If God commands something, then it is right – even if it would otherwise be considered wrong”
- “We will find the answers to your troubling questions in the afterlife, until then we must simply have faith”
- “That is a mystery which God uses to test our faith.”
- “You should be more concerned about doing what we tell you is right, than asking questions which tear down faith”
- “Our leader was only speaking as a man when he said that troubling or incorrect thing. You can trust what he says when speaking as our leader”
- “You cannot trust anything that is not published by our own official sources”
- “Your personal failure to keep our rules has led you to doubt. Start focusing on fixing yourself rather than tearing down our faith”
- “The answer to some questions are too precious or sacred to be given at this time”
- “If you pray harder and read more of our official publications, then you will understand. Your doubts are proof that you haven’t studied enough”
- “It’s okay to have these questions, but you should never share them with anyone else – just your leaders in private. You should trust the judgement of your leaders over your own”
- “Don’t listen to ex-members of our faith. They are evil”
- “You previously believed that this was true – you should trust that feeling and stop questioning it”

Each of the above WOOD tools would keep someone trapped in a false faith if they were to be successfully employed by the leaders of those false religions.

Another way of looking at it

Since such answers do not have the power to liberate someone from a false religion, then they should not be relied upon by anyone who is sincerely seeking after the truth – no matter what religion they are in. This is a critical point which is necessary to understand in order for the single weird trick that will fix any faith crisis to work. To help clarify the point another analogy will be employed.

Let’s imagine that we have developed a test which may be applied to a patient when there is suspicion of cancer. You are a researcher and you want to find out how good the test is at detecting cancer so you gather 100 patients who you know ALL have cancer. You apply the test to all of these patients and in every case, the test comes back negative – the test tells you that there is no cancer. You know that the patient’s all have cancer because you have seen the tumors on x-ray and have tissue sample and biopsies proving it.

Now suppose that there is a reason that you need to test your child to see if they have cancer. You apply that test to your child and it comes up negative. Do you trust it?

If that test did not have the power to detect cancer when you knew that it was present by other undeniable means, then why would you trust it to clear yourself or a loved one of disease?

In the same manner, if a Way Of Overcoming Doubt does not have the power to detect a false religion where you know it is false – why would you want a loved one to rely upon it when they are seeking answers in their own faith?

Seeking Truth: Education, Erudition and Liberation

If a WOOD tool simply quells doubt then it is absolutely harmful. If the WOOD tool instructs your child to silence their concerns from discussion with others, focus on daily duties the group has prescribed, wait for answers in the afterlife, make unreasonable allowances for human imperfection or to spurn logic and rationality - then that WOOD tool is complicit in keeping your loved one trapped in a system of controlling deception and lies.

The thing about WOOD tools is that they don’t last. Because the problems that the seeker discovered have not gone away, but instead have simply been covered or pushed away – they will return to the mind sincerely searching for truth. This is because the goal of these strategies is misplaced from the beginning. Overcoming Doubt is not a worthy goal in and of itself! It pre-supposes that your doubt’s are wrong. Overcoming doubt in a false religion is a bad thing.

The real goal for those who are starting to ask such pressing questions is SEEKING TRUTH. Answers to those questions and ways of dealing with the seeking heart should simply have truth as the goal – wherever that may lead! The seeker should have unconstrained freedom to Educate themselves – from any and every source they find. The seeker should be empowered to use logic and reason in a Erudite manner and let those conclusions stand for what they are. The seeker should be free to assimilate that knowledge and reason and if necessary Liberate themselves from deception and error.

Seeking Truth by Education, Erudition and, if needs be, Liberation are STEEL tools which can be relied upon no matter what faith one is found in. They will last. They can be applied without reservation or restriction to any question that arises.

STEEL tool examples

What are examples of answers that fall into this category? They would be answers which could empower someone to discover the deception of a false religion and free themselves from it.

- “Look at any and all information you can find from both official and unofficial sources”
- “Talk to anyone about your questions and evaluate all answers”
- “Find out what other people who have had the same questions say – both current and former members”
- “Trust your own moral compass for what is right and wrong”
- “Allow yourself to follow your conclusion, even if it means rejecting something that you previously thought was true”

The list is not as long because there are fewer mental acrobatics that have to be employed. The seeker is simply advised to learn as much as possible from anywhere and use their God-given mind and conscience to follow where truth leads.

It should also be observed that Liberation doesn’t mean that you have to leave your religion. You can be liberated from the false beliefs of a false religion and still hold fast to those aspects which uplift and are positive. You can have a more balanced and realistic view of the faith, appreciating it’s rich and colored history and your own heritage among its members while rejecting the toxic features. Many people liberated in such a manner work to improve those aspects of the faith which are hurtful. They may be seen as a significant force which drives these institutions to evolve and progress.
It should also be noted that some particularly high demand religions would reject and expel people who do this.

Equipping your loved one for their faith crisis

Now think about your loved one trapped in the false religion. Would you want them to be given WOOD tools or STEEL tools to apply to their crisis of faith? I hope the answer is clear to you now.

In a deceptive high-demand religion, WOOD tools would keep them trapped and bound where STEEL tools would empower them to escape that bondage.

In an honest religion, WOOD tools would typically not be employed, because deception is at the heart of every WOOD tool. If they were employed, they would simply keep seekers less informed. STEEL tools would empower the seeker to learn more about their faith, blemishes and all, and the individual would be free to stay or go as their conscience directed.

The One Weird Trick – Conclusion

Okay – We have defined a faith crisis and demonstrated that a “fix” to a crisis of faith may have one of two outcomes. We have explored a make-pretend scenario so that you can look at the issue more objectively. We have explained and demonstrated the value and difference between WOOD tools and STEEL tools as applied to a faith crisis.

It’s time to learn the one weird trick to fixing your own faith crisis…

… which you can learn by purchasing a book, authored by me, for the low price of..

I kid! I kid!

I hate things like that.

The one weird trick is this:

"In examining doubts about your own religion you should only rely on answers to your questions which have the power to discern truth from error."

This doesn’t mean only accept answers that are disparaging to your religion. It simply means that an answer which would keep someone trapped in a false religion cannot be trusted to exonerate your own – just as a test that cannot detect cancer in a known case cannot be used to exclude disease in your own.

Look at the list of WOOD tools above. If those are the answers that you are being given, then you should be alarmed. It doesn’t mean that you should march out right now – just that you should understand that it is okay for you to take up your own STEEL tools and start working on the problem with out having to rely on the WOOD instruments that are being handed to you from others.



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 07/13/2014 08:06PM by Susan I/S.

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Posted by: Lethbridge Reprobate ( )
Date: July 13, 2014 12:22PM

Not ever having any faith made it much easier for me to walk away from organized religion in general and Mormonism in particular.

Ron Burr

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Posted by: hfo ( )
Date: July 13, 2014 01:12PM

Thanks for the post

Seems like the ward building has a nice wood shop.



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Posted by: madalice ( )
Date: July 13, 2014 01:28PM

Pretty soon the members will get tired of cleaning the wood shop. It's just one more thing to do that makes no sense.

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Posted by: snb ( )
Date: July 13, 2014 01:13PM


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Posted by: hfo ( )
Date: July 13, 2014 01:17PM

???

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Posted by: snb ( )
Date: July 13, 2014 08:19PM

It is a play on "Language professors hate him!" which is a phrase you see in the same type of ads that mention "with this one weird trick!"

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Posted by: exdrymo ( )
Date: July 13, 2014 03:35PM

If you drive less than 50 miles a day, you need to read this!

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Posted by: snb ( )
Date: July 13, 2014 08:19PM

Haha :)

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Posted by: baura ( )
Date: July 14, 2014 04:17PM

If you pray less than three hours a day you need to read this.

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Posted by: Susan I/S ( )
Date: July 13, 2014 08:10PM

No one here is above the rules. If your blog is banned it means you violated policy at least once.

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Posted by: Dorothy ( )
Date: July 14, 2014 12:12AM

Those damn wood tools kept me in an extra 15 years.

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Posted by: onendagus ( )
Date: July 14, 2014 05:02PM

The title is offputting for recovery types and any references to scam stuff is annoying. The patronizing appeals to keep reading made me want to puke but i get that its part of the genre.

I read your post to snark at it and ended up appreciating the concepts as some of the best I've ever seen. Thanks for posting this.



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