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Date: July 22, 2014 11:34PM
In the previous thread I offered up the thought that girls don't want nice guys and that maybe I am too nice.
Several of you gave me some really frank and thoughtful comments on that, which really started me thinking this afternoon.
Over the years I have become nice, I guess nice to the point of bland and dull. But you know something? I wasn't always. From my earliest years until about 16/17 I was braggadocious. I have no idea what happened but I did a 180 from that time to the present.
Well, maybe it's not completely accurate that I have no idea what happened. I have pondered on it and come up with a few ideas, only one of which is pertinent to the theme of this website and which I'll share here. Church teachings had a role, I am certain of it. Teachings such as humility and turning the other cheek etc. I think I took them to the extreme. I came to think that if I was contrary in any way to any body that I wasn't being a good person and that it could weigh against me in the judgment. I have thought about this over the years, but some of your comments have brought it back to the forefront of my mind. Back in my days of confidence and cocksureness I excelled at everything I did. Now, I excel at nothing. Funny how those things seem to go hand in hand. Knowing that I was once great, I have hope that I may be again.
Stream of consciousness here, and this gets back to my original post two nights ago. I could get girls in my youth. Never was much for dating, but still, there were two or three. Honestly hadn't given it any thought til just now. So I'm thinking that what some of you said about girls' attraction to confidence has merit.
Tal, I jotted down your email. Thanks. For the moment I'm going to remain very anon, but if your offer stands, maybe I'll hit you up when I get my stuff together and feel like being a little less anon :)