Posted by:
Human
(
)
Date: July 31, 2014 03:48PM
Hi atouchscreendarkly,
I know very well the place you are in right now because I've been there and remember it being very uncomfortable.
My faith was "rocked" to "my core" before the prevalence of the internet ('90s) and without any support from others. I went through my "faith crisis" completely alone. I could not even gather strength from the jack-mos I knew because they all believed but simply "couldn't live the gospel." I could "live the gospel," easily, but I was having extreme difficulty believing "the gospel," whatever that even meant.
To stay Mormon (I was married with 3 babies and an extended family with nary a questioner among them and only a few jack-mos) I tried to think about the things that bothered my intelligence less literally and more metaphorically or symbolically. That worked for a time. I used this to hold off my "faith crisis" while I dug further into mormon books looking for the "deeper doctrine", more meat than the Temple etc.
My digging lead me to the Journal of Discourses and The History of the Church, buried deep in a neglected corner of an old friend of my father-in-law. I read and read and read. And then read some more. And after that read again.
What I finally concluded was that it didn't matter anymore whether or not "the church was true." What I found was that "the church" was certainly not good. I found Brigham Young exceptionally repugnant, and just the whole tone of the early church, based on their own writings, as the very opposite of a Christ-centred good and loving church.
That tipped my scales. I went after the doctrine and history more sceptically and persistently, taking my questions to my Bishop, which lead me to the Stake President, who referred me to CES. I found that it was impossible for me to remain mormon AND view Elohim metaphorically or symbolically, for an example among many, and was told to repent and take care not to rely on the pride of learning. Who was I, I was told, to think I knew more than the Apostles and Prophet (and, what they were really saying, the Bish, SP and Institute teacher.) Well, that was it, in my heart I was done.
I didn't leave all at once, and I didn't feel "surety" all at once, but I knew in my heart it was over. If "the church" is true then it isn't a good church. If the mormon god is God then God is not good. I knew that I needed to follow that which is good before following a god. If I was wrong, I reasoned, then I could at least tell Jesus on judgement day that I sincerely believed that The Good is higher than Obedience.
I went through the above with great fear and trepidation, believe me. It was scary as hell, since hell seemed a possible outcome.
Since then (signed my resignation request in 2000, with TBM wife and children in tow, thankfully) I've gained the "surety" you are looking for. The internet and this site didn't help me to get out because I didn't know about it then, but it certainly has helped me confirm what I had experienced, and helped me realize that I wasn't alone, that many were as troubled as I was (and you are) by the truth claims of LDSinc, by history and doctrines, and by its willingness to lie to deceive to keep the ball going, as it were.
Good luck to you.
Human