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Date: July 05, 2012 11:14AM
You've got questions, we've got answers --
1. "I live in the Salt Lake City, Utah area but am willing to leave in 1-3 years from now."
***I'm from the rocky mountain south west -- I like mountains and deserts.
2. "I am very financially secure, but not enough to quit work for at least another decade and maybe longer depending on the unknowns of the future."
*** I do professional contract work in the defence and aerospace industry so I can do for myself. I do like getting Louboutins, Alexander McQueen, and DKNY though.
3. "I really enjoy my profession and get plenty of compensation, accolades and respect in my niche."
*** I wouldn't want to to abandon your career.
4. "I was a RM, temple-married, and a very strong TBM until I accidentally came across the issues that ought to cause anyone TBM with integrity to re-examine their religion and become an exmormon, but I've learned and accepted that most TBM's will never do so."
*** I almost married a Mormon guy. I'm not religious at all and I could care less if you were an RM or not.
5. "I have a diversity of hobbies which I do pursue but none that is big and all-consuming. In fact I have no hobbies I wouldn't be willing to sacrifice for the right relationship."
*** I also have lots of interests and hobbies -- I'm very eclectic.
6. "I used to be extremely frugal but the circumstances of earning good money and spending little sure paid off over time and I have slowly and have surely become less stingy and quite responsibly generous."
*** I wouldn't expect you to support me -- occasional gifts would be nice but you wouldn't have to. See comment #2.
7. "I come from very smart genes. Both of my parents are off the chart smart people as are all my siblings. And I've done well in my profession because I'm good at using my brain in certain ways. With this I tend to be a bit nerdy but feel generally comfortable in social situations. However I don't have great fashion sense and know this and will dress myself however the woman in my life I trust will want me to do so."
*** I'm the Supreme Nerd Chick of the Universe...probably one of the few former fashion models who could say that.
8. "I'm basically undecided on having more kids. One of the most difficult compromises I made to "save the marriage" was to give up the idea of having more kids. I really wanted more but she unilaterally decided there would be no more. I could certainly afford more kids and would love the opportunity to bring kids into a real happy family and would still be in my 60's and the same age as some of my kids' fathers are now by the time they graduated from high school. Nevertheless for the right relationship I could certainly go either way on this matter."
*** Kids are optional for me. I like dogs.
9. "I'm average height/weight for men and told that I'm decent looks. My pictures could probably use some professional help but then again I think authenticity is important from the get-go."
*** I'm well over six feet tall and I'm not shy at all about wearing sky-high heels. If you aren't a control freak like Tom Cruise who won't let his wife wear heels then I don't care if you are tall or short--just if you are a nice guy or not.
10. "I was married 19 years with 2 kids right away like good Mormons not using birth control. However my heart was emotionally out the door from the beginning because we weren't compatible in many ways and 3 failed reconciliations (around a year long twice; plus a few months on the 3rd one) following 4 different marriage counselors has proven that I'd never be happy if I stayed with her. I only bring her up now because anyone looking at a single 42 year old would want to know his relationships experience during their adult life. And the kids are old enough now that my "good" excuse for doing a 4th reconciliation would finally be moot."
*** The Mormon guy I almost married also did this, his wife left him after two years and he raised the kids by himself. Things were going great until I met his TBM relatives and they made him break off the relationship. I would only care about what you thought and no one else.
11. "The qualities I most look for in a woman are the combination of: brain and usage, attractiveness to me (yes its superficial but it has to be there sufficiently), chemistry, ambition, responsibility and relationship-commitment."
*** My background is in astrophysics and astronomy and I have all sorts of interests. I would enjoy going to the symphony, the theatre, museums or other historical sites, out of the way restaurants, skiing, hiking, etc. As far as the other part goes it depends if you like really smart, sexy, and sophisticated tall long legged blondes with a permanent sun tan who wear couture outfits and designer heels.
12. "The biggest turnoffs for me are smokers, excessive piercings/tatoos (i'm ok with 1-4, but dozens nope), obesity, frigidity, TBMs, and those who put materialism and self-indulgence ahead of relationships. On that last part I'm certainly fine with women liking materialism and self-indulgence and I actually find a certain amount of this to be a turnon/plus. But I've learned that about 20-30% of women out there would not be compatible with me on this as there are some women who weigh their own love of materialism and self-indulgence so strongly that they'd be hell-bent on destroying a man's creditworthiness and reputation to get what they want right now. Fortunately most women aren't like this but the ones that are this way turn me off quickly."
*** I don't smoke, drink, do drugs, drink coffee (no, I'm not Mormon, I just don't like it) and I'm not shallow, catty, or superficial. I'm looking for someone to be with -- not to sponge off of. No tats or piercings except for ears. I do like alternative fashion (latex, lycra, PVC, leather, corsets) and I have worked as a dominatrix. It's up to you if you like that or not -- it's not necessary for you to.
13. "I recognize that I can't expect perfection in a relationship. That's not what I'm seeking. I'm after happiness. And I kick myself almost every day knowing that I gave up real happiness a couple years ago to go back into that less-happy situation I had with their mom due to the fact that my kids really needed the presence of their father which they frankly couldn't have at that time any other way. But alas I've mourned long enough what I lost there and what I hoped I could have with their mom but frankly never was possible."
*** I'm not perfect and I wouldn't expect you to be. I don't mind going out by myself but it gets old after a while. I could tell you things that you didn't know and you might know some things I don't know. It all depends on you.