Posted by:
Arwen
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Date: August 16, 2014 11:08AM
I'm not too far ahead of you in all of this. Last year it was like my eyes opened. I, too, had similar issues. Though, I only knew about polygamy as it's taught in church. And my whole life that felt evil and wrong, and no matter how many times I prayed about it, I only felt it was more wrong. Of course, I never considered it might actually BE WRONG. I just thought I wasn't as faithful as I needed to be. Long story short, after talking to a friend, reading some stuff, I came to the conclusion that polygamy wasn't doctrine. Prayed about it and finally felt at peace with that, and it started a downhill spiral of the church falling apart.
If you haven't already, check out the CES Letter (www.cesletter.com). That has such great references and information in it. It really opened my eyes up to things. I knew my mind would struggle with accepting it all, but it didn't make it any less true.
So, I started looking at things from the perspective of a non-member. I looked at things as someone who had never been taught all the things I had been taught (the things to frighten me away from researching, such as losing my eternal salvation and the fear that I was being deceived by the devil). If I took the facts, would I have ever joined this church? Would I really be able to find truth in it? (Yes, I could to the made up version of the church that the church teaches...but what about the ACTUAL facts?)
I looked at it FACTUALLY and not emotionally. It was quite the struggle for a while, but the whole picture is finally so much more clear (we officially made the decision we were done with the church in February, luckily my husband along with me). Life makes more sense. I have less answers to some things now (where did i come from? what happens when we die?), but I feel like I have more answers NOW that actually make sense. I can accept me and truly explore and grow and devleop, whereas before, I felt much more timid and like I had to stay in a little tiny box.
Anyway, I hope things go well for you. I have felt the same feelings as you! For a while I struggled with feeling like I was doing something evil and wrong, but we should be able to get our information from outside sources (even though most are truly inside sources that the church simply hides). We don't live in North Korea. But now I view the way the church tries to control information much more like that than a church of God would.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 08/16/2014 11:11AM by layla.