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CA girl
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Date: February 17, 2013 02:25AM
I'm having a Facebook moment. One of my best friends just became a grandma and for some reason, it just reminded me that the last 18 years of my life are almost a blur of just trying to survive. Trying to be the perfect Molly Mormon mom of small children with husband in school and time consuming callings. Never having any money between college and tithing and DH wanting me to be a SAHM as much as possible. Trying to fit in to a group of Mormon women who I mostly wouldn't have chosen as friends and a set of in-laws who were so backwoods Mormony they may has well have been from a foreign country for all we understood each other. Feeling frustrated and misunderstood and to top it all, dealing with a husband with undiagnosed ADD. Someone who has a problem with personal space and boundaries and who took years to learn life wasn't either his way or it was stupid.
The ADD was diagnosed and just as things were getting better, there was a personal situation which I can honestly say brought me to my knees and not in a praying way but in a sadness way. But that cleared the slate for me to learn the truth about Mormonism and LISTEN. Then it was a couple of years of questions, anger, friends betrayals, not knowing what to do next. Finally, just in the last year, my life, while not exactly what it would be if I could have a completely clean slate is at least close enough that I recognize my pre-marriage self again. Even better, I recognize my REAL self again.
Looking at other peoples' Facebook pages, I sometimes feel like I'm waking up from a very, very long illness that cheated me out of a normal, happy life. Realistically, I know that most of these people had problems of their own I can't imagine. But they look like they spent the last two decades alive, whereas I feel like I spent them as an invalid. And the weird thing is, looking at it from the outside I'd probably say my pictures and postings don't look one bit different than any of theirs. It just feels different. And I'm pretty sure I have Mormonism to thank for it because once the Mormonism was removed, things finally began to get better.
OK, pity party over - I return you to your regularly scheduled Recovery Channel. :)