Posted by:
Tal Bachman
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Date: September 03, 2014 12:22AM
On another thread, a poster named "Paul the Apostle" repeatedly asserted that "all women" - Mormon or not - are "gold diggers". (See
http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,1368036 )
Dr. Love says this statement is as ignorant as it is untrue. Dr. Love also says that guys who say this are searching for excuses to explain why they can't get the women they want, when other guys can. In that respect, it is also pathetic.
It is true that wealth, fame, power, and status can be powerful attractants to both men and women. But it is also true that other qualities can be just as attractive to people, and often, even more so. For every soulless ditz who would only chase a fancy car, there are hundreds of beautiful women who appreciate a kind, strong, funny, confident, passionate, fit man with a plan - even though he doesn't have a lot of money.
In fact, this is one of the most amazing things about women, even the most physically beautiful: when they meet a man of modest means, but can feel his true passion for life, and for them, and feel his integrity and truth, and see his visions and ambitions, and see him striving to make them real; when they can feel his sense of justice and confidence and rock-like emotional strength, and feel his optimism and humour; when they *emotionally resonate with him*, and trust him, and have fun with him, in that moment, not one in a hundred (or more) will care much about the guy's bank account anymore - they will come to believe in that man, and they will want to join him, and go on an amazing journey with him. They will want to *build with him*, even if it means starting mostly from zero. Or at the very least, they will want to spend time with him, and get to know him more, and see where things might go.
I know many (beautiful) women like this. I revere that part of them. My friends date some of them, or are married to them, and I have dated some of them, too. I am dating one now (and my divorce wiped me out financially). How can that be, if "all women are gold diggers"?
Of course, it cannot be. This claim is simply not true, and any guy who believes it needs a crash course in male-female relations, and some serious work on his mojo and life.
Just my two cents,
Dr. Love
Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 09/03/2014 04:04AM by Tal Bachman.