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Date: September 21, 2014 05:49PM
First time poster here. Member for double-digit years, convert as young adult, temple marriage, young kids. Spouse is a "chapel mormon" -- attends on Sundays, but has no problem missing church often, no big callings, etc., but defends TSCC when difficult issues come up. Common responses:
"I wasn't there",
"we don't know everything about how God works",
"I didn't receive the revelation, so I'm not sure how it came about",
"we just have to have faith",
and my personal fave: "who am i to say how things should work/whether that behavior is okay/etc.?"
Excuse after excuse after excuse for the inexcusable. After years of saying certain aspects of doctrine are not okay, the way that women/young women are treated is not okay, the blind obedience is creepy, the micromanaging of people's lives is appalling, etc., I started doing actual research about the origins of the church.
Surprise, surprise. The missionaries walked into my living room years ago, and from there everyone has just been lying their behinds off. The defenses I hear are that it is not "lying" exactly, but the circular reasoning and double-talk is just beyond ridiculous.
My children were put on the records of the church without a blessing (that's an entirely different topic), and without my knowledge or consent. Apparently, spouse consented without informing me. None are old enough for baptism.
I would like to ask what the effects will be for my kids to remain on the church's records, but without ordinances performed?
Spouse is opposed to name removal. This may change later in life, but for now, I've got to navigate this. There is no way in hell that I'm allowing some of the screwed-up stuff to get near my kids. There will be no chanting to follow the false prophets, "interviews" with minor children behind closed doors without a parent present, or teaching them that they are walking uteruses or 19 year old salesmen for this organization. I'm so done. So much of what they do is creepy & invasive, and I have always put my foot down and had very clear boundaries. Now that we have kids, for some reason everyone assumes that I will just let the church teach them whatever the church wants....um, no.
Will the church harass my kids until their names are officially removed? Another legitimate concern: can spouse have my kids baptised without my knowledge or consent, if I'm not with them every second?
Thanks for any insight.