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Date: November 25, 2013 03:47PM
Last sunday I visited with a former bishop friend, who is now a branch president. We had a nice conversation as he has been a family friend for years and still he is leader to some relatives.
As we discussed about missionaries, he said that about 8 missionaries had been killed or died during the course of this year alone, to which I corrected and said "it has been at least 14 deaths, including a possible suicide in Mexico". Then we went on talking about the pressure of local leaders on the youth to go serve missions and the pressures in the mission field to reach some number goals. Also the depression many missionaries get into because of this. We share the same opinion that no one should go on to serve as a missionary unless they really want to go. If they don't want to go, it is possible they are going to get in or cause more trouble than succeed.
He told me about his three sons, two of them did serve missions and one is serving right now. The first one, where he served, assisted the president by picking up missionaries that where about to be sent home because of breaking serious rules. The president would ask him to "pick them up, bags included". That and other events, my friend told me, would help his son to eventually become inactive. He says he finished school, is succeeding in his profession and has a happy marriage.
The second son came back as TBM as they can be, pushing everyone in the family to read scriptures, keep the sabath, etc. He eventually got married but divorced later on. He is doing good at school but is not too happy about family life. Not so active either.
The third son didn't want to go on to serve a mission but now he is happy serving.
After hearing this stories, I asked him, how a bishop can react to the inactivity of his own son? - He answered that he loves him dearly, he doesn't keep him from the family, in other words, this is an open minded more mature bishop.
Then I asked him what he thinks about those who leave the church. He answered that he understand such people. He thinks some leave because of the things they see or find in the church or because they just want to go sin. But he recognizes that there are doctrines or history that can make people disbelieve and go away.
Then he added "I am a practical person... I don't think or worry about the doctrines, I just serve and help the people or the youth, I just try to do good to others in my calling and in my community. I do not know or pretend to find out what is going to happen beyond the veil... that no one really knows for sure, I don't get into such doctrines. I am a man of doing not studying".
I really appreciate this man, because I can see him doing what he claims, he serves. But I can see where he fails, and that is where he prefers to close his eyes to the negative of the church. To me this that is the only way TBMs can stayh in TSCC; by seen only, or choosing to see only the positive about it.
My bet is that some 90% of members choose that. Why do you think?