Posted by:
think4u
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Date: March 17, 2011 11:03AM
To turn the tables around, I always tried my best to be a very good wife and mother, but when I left the church, my husband dumped me, and remarried the VERY first woman he met online, less than 7 months after our divorce, IN the temple, as that was his main criteria.
I later learned he had married her unworthily, as he had withheld a bunch of money from me in the divorce and I had granted the temple divorce by saying "yes" to the question, "Is your spouse current in his financial obligations to you?", because at the time I had believed he was. I wanted things remain as civil as possible for the kids sake, and I do not hold grudges well either, they are pointless.
She could have been anyone, it was a HUGE slap in the face and it hurt. Who he married mattered not to him as long as he could get another wife sealed to him in the temple, and fast. I felt worthless and so easily replaceable it just really hurt. I cried the whole day he got married.
I am now 60, and those that know me would say I am nice looking ( please do not take that wrong but I want to make a point), not overweight, and look about 50. I hear it every day of my life. He had ALL the sex he ever wanted and more. If you question any of this ask Norma Rae, Jim Whitefield, Cludgie. They know me.
He married a large homely woman, 2 years older than me, whom I sure is very nice and I know is very TBM, but my friends in the old ward are just dying over who he chose. The point being she could have been anyone, any woman in this world became preferable to me because I was not longer believing. If he wanted to hurt me, he certainly succeeded.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 03/17/2011 11:17AM by think4u.