Posted by:
imaworkinonit
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Date: February 23, 2014 12:18AM
a form of control or subtle way of putting someone down on a technicality.
I think that is what the original poster is talking about.
I certainly don't say please every time I ask someone to do something. I can still ask nicely. But if someone got upset and said 'you didn't say PLEASE', I would be irritated. So, if I then said "please", would they feel all vindicated or something? And I would definitely be pissed. It just sounds nitpicky to me, like someone is in the mood to nag about something.
Popeyes, I'm not actually sure how I would address this with her. Certainly, examine the tone of voice you used and make sure you are asking nicely. But there has got to be a way to say "Wifey, demanding that I use the word 'please' feels like I'm being scolded as if I'm a child. Do you really feel like I'm bossing you around"?
I'm pretty sure I've read, like 100 times in the "Miss Manners" column that correcting the way people say things is a big breach of etiquette.
Below is an online discussion of this very topic, and there are a lot of different viewpoints:
http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=656326Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 02/23/2014 12:19AM by imaworkinonit.