Posted by:
rallychild
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Date: March 19, 2011 05:44PM
In my experience being raised by an extremely TBM mother, I've noticed some major flaws in her parenting skills due to the brain washing of the church. My mother did a really good job raising me and my 5 other siblings all by herself (my parents divorced when I was 6), she loved and cared for all of us and did the best job she could without a father figure in the home, and for that I am very grateful.
However, since I am the only one out of my 5 siblings that has "fallen away", I've seen some pretty obvious flaws in the way my mother approaches her parenting towards me. For example, everything and I mean EVERYTHING is church or God-related. I can't even have a normal son to mother conversation with her. Everything is always "I know that if you obey Heavenly Father, such and such will happen..." or "I know that if you pay tithing and pray and read your scriptures, God will bless you..." or "God only wants what's best for you", "Follow the Prophet", "Go on a mission", etc. etc. etc. I, as well as paintinginthewind said, could go on & on.
Just for once, I want my mom to say something like "I know that if you work hard and persevere and don't get into trouble, that you can go far in life and become whatever you want" or "I know that if you make good life choices and be a good person, you will be successful and enjoy life" or something like that! Just for once I want my mom to support me in my decisions and talk to me like mother to son, instead of God to mother to son.
It makes me sad that she believes in the church so much, that everything has to involve the church and God. It is pretty clear that my mothers top priority is the church, not her children. And I say that, because she refuses to help me out financially while i'm in college, because I don't go to church anymore and I didn't (and most definitely won't) go on a mission. She is willing to fork out thousands of dollars for my brothers and sister to go on a mission, but she is unwilling to lend me 50-60 bucks for groceries. She still thinks the reason I can't find a job is because I don't pay tithing. In reality, I can't find a job because this is the worst economical time America has seen since the great depression (basically).
That is what's wrong with mormon parents. Love is conditional. They only love you and treat you well if you are mormon. If you decide otherwise, they treat you like a second class citizen.
Sorry for venting.