Posted by:
summer
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Date: November 01, 2014 12:36PM
I would do everything in your power to save this marriage. Marital counseling is a must. Hopefully your wife will go with you, but go by yourself if not. Mutual respect will be key. She is not allowed to disparage your beliefs or to be condescending, but neither are you allowed to do that with her beliefs. SusieQ#1 has written on this board a number of times about how to make it work with a believing spouse:
http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,503271See also:
http://packham.n4m.org/spouse.htmThe kids would be far better off with you around. Honestly, it doesn't take that much for you to have a profound influence on them. My dad taught me to question religious authority with one sentence muttered under his breath during a mass (in response to something the priest had said.) I listened intently and learned a lot just from that one sentence. Years later, I see that as the initial catalyst that eventually led me to a freedom of belief.
You can stay married and cultivate non-Mormon friends. Find a nice nevermo couple or two and invite them over to dinner. Or find a golfing, fishing, or hiking buddy.
You may be bored with sex with your wife, but do remember that she has a highly demanding, energy-sapping job managing children at home. And the grass isn't always greener on the other side. A divorced male friend of mine found that out the hard way.
Good luck to you, and let us know how things go.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 11/01/2014 12:38PM by summer.