Posted by:
furiousangel
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Date: November 18, 2014 04:40PM
Been a lurker here for a little while - I am SO glad to find a group that I can relate these crazy experiences with!
So here's the short story:
I recently came out to my parents that I'm atheist. My wife is more agnostic than I am, although I tend to drift from atheist to agnostic depending on how many shots I've had. "Hopeful Athiest" is an apt term.
Just like many TBM parents out there, mine can't seem to have a relationship with me outside of the church. The recession of 07-09 really put a dent in my industry (finance) and now with a little girl, it's been tough to make ends meet. My wife and I both work. (I during the week, and she on the weekends.)
Knowing our financial hardship (cost of living is high in So Cal), my parents (wealthy) offered us an incentive: Get married in the temple and you can live in our condo for free. ("Free" means property taxes and HOA Fees, but no "rent") Needless to say, the drop in living costs is really attractive.
After about a year of deliberations, my wife and I decided to take the plunge. Our previous situation ($1500/month for a 550 square foot loft apartment with a 10-month old) was really uncomfortable! Now, we've got 1250 square feet, 4 bedrooms, and "rent" is basically $600/month.
Financially, the deal is a no brainer.
Morally, it totally sucks.
So I sold my integrity for +$700/month in free cash flow.
Luckily, my wife and I are on the same page, and we don't mind having to turn a few cartwheels to get ahead. It's not like we were sinking before, I'd just like to be in the positive: save for my child's college, build funds for a home, pay off my student debts, etc etc.
I honestly thought it would be a lot more difficult on me (mentally) than it had played out thus far. We've only been to church 8(?) times, and it's actually pretty entertaining to hear what goes on once you've been 'unplugged.' Old men love to have listeners!
What totally sucks is that I can either have a crappy relationship with my parents and high cost of living, or I can have a crappy relationship with them and a low cost of living.
The craziest part: I straight up told my father that I don't believe anything, and that I'm just going to lie my way through it. HE DIDNT EVEN SEEM TO CARE (he's in bishopric position). That blew my mind.
Moreover, he said he wouldn't rent to me at market price! The only way I could rent one of his properties (he has many) is to take the deal...
So yes, the plan is I am going to blatantly lie to get into the temple and fulfill my parent's dream for money.
P.S - I also negotiated tithing! I told my father that I didn't want to pay tithing, and that in order for this deal to work, he'd have to pay it. He agreed!
What say you all?
Am I wrong? What do you think will happen down the line? Am I risking too much? What challenges do you see that I may not?