I took this quizz with the LDS church in mind.

http://www.beliefnet.com/section/quiz/index.asp?sectionID=203&surveyID=441

This is the result I got:

You are definitely in a destructive relationship and likely in an abusive one as well. Destructive relationships contain some or all of these five elements: 1. Physical, emotional, verbal or sexual abuse. 2. One person is regularly overprotective, overbearing and controlling toward the other. 3. One person is overdependent upon the other to affirm his or her personal value and worth, to meet most of his or her needs, and to make most of his or her decisions. 4. One person demonstrates a pattern of deceiving the other through lying, hiding, pretending, misleading, or twisting information to make something appear other than what it is. 5. One person exhibits chronic indifference, neglect, or both toward the thoughts, feelings, or well-being of the other. Start taking steps to identify your patterns in this relationship in order to invite mutual change or step back from the relationship so that you can heal. You cannot make a relationship work all by yourself. You can make it better, but you can't fix this alone

That is really disturbing.
Spot on, of course.
But very disturbing.

I took it for a former boyfriend and it said I scored a 9. I had been told by the boyfriend that I was codependent. However, when I took it as me in high school with my dad being the other person, I scored a 19. My dad was emotionally and occasionally physically abusive to me from about 16-19 when I moved out.

48, daddy-o

I didn't think that ANYBODY could be a bigger SOB than the ex, but there was the physical abuse angle to consider. My ex knew that if he ever raised a hand to me, I would shoot him and not give it a second thought.

But his verbal cruelty has caused invisible wounds that may never heal.

Don
We're in the same boat.



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Be careful. Don't swamp it!

There's no need to go overboard....

With my ex-husband, the score I got for that relationship was 60. It's a good thing I got out of that when I did as it was extremely toxic. My current relationship was about a 4.

Yikes!

My relationship with my wife gets a 5.



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Bullying, whether committed by a fellow student, a neighborhood group or a globally respected church is the most disgusting activity possible. Thank God we have a government that was begun by God. We have absolute protection from bullies, no matter their place on earth.

http://www.stopbullying.gov/