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Date: December 19, 2014 05:08PM
Many of you know the story of my SIL who met a guy at a single's dance several years ago and got engaged a month later. This happens is Moism but the difference was she was in her 40s and had a teenage son from a previous marriage and two younger kids. She didn't bother to check this guy out at all before bringing him into her home and giving him access to her children. But equally bad, she waited until her teenage son left for scout camp several weeks later then eloped with her boyfriend behind her son's back, without telling him or inviting anyone. Four years later, they are divorced and her kids are in therapy for what they went through at step-dad's hands.
Last night I found out that another, this time non-LDS friend pulled almost the exact same stunt. After her divorce, she moved away from our area and was introduced to a guy from Georgia via people at her church, through Facebook. After four months of internet chatting, she decides to fly out to Atlanta to visit him while her daughter is spending Christmas break with her father who still lives in our town. This is the first time they have met in person. The 15-year-old girl is my daughter's best friend and so last night they were having a sleepover when BF gets a text message from another friend - a screen shot of the Facebook page of Mr. Atlanta with the announcement of her mother's marriage. BF is sure it's a joke - her mother wouldn't marry someone without even introducing him to her still-living-at-home teenage daughter but no, mom has eloped and didn't even bother to tell the daughter - just let her find out about it through Facebook.
So my question is WHO DOES THIS TO THEIR CHILDREN? This may be the best possible marriage but it's done in the worst possible way - behind her still underage, still living at home child's back. Both BF and my nephew were old enough to be crushed by their parent's apparent betrayal, bringing another adult into their life without even inviting them to the wedding. At least nephew met his wicked step-dad before he left for camp. And there is no particular sign BF will have a wicked step-dad but she clearly has an insensitive one - who posts their marriage to their FB page until their spouse has had a chance to talk to each one of her kids? Honestly, I can no more imagine sneaking off and doing something like this behind my kids back than I can imagine .... well, intentionally hurting them in any other way either. And I'm just an ordinary parent - you don't have to be mother of the year to figure this one out, IMO. Or am I just hopelessly old-fashioned, putting my minor children first? Whatever, my heart is just breaking for this sweet girl who feels her mom has stabbed her in the back.
Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 12/19/2014 05:14PM by CA girl.