Posted by:
Breeze
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Date: January 08, 2015 03:20PM
Trust me, you don't want to try to belong in a group that marginalizes you, socially. That really undermines your self-esteem. Mormon society is based on popularity, and popularity is based on how many people you are able to convert, how high your callings are, how much money you have, how many false-friends you have, how many children you have around you, how often you sing, speak, perform, teach in front of a group, how much service you do.
If you resign, then return, that is worse than being a "convert."
Converts are never treated the same as BIC Mormons.
If you're divorced, you're marginalized.
If you are single
It you're a couple with no children, or only one child
If you're ethnic, dark skinned, and/or dark-eyed, you're marginalized.
If you're "poor" and unable to pay much tithing.
If you're sick and unable to fill a calling.
If you attend sacrament meeting only twice a month
If you don't go to the temple regularly.
If you ask questions in class, or challenge any "doctrine."
My list is getting too long, and it is sickening. Being marginalized, snubbed, abused, and shunned is NOT FUN--and that's what happens if you say or do anything contrary to the confining little Mormon stereotype. Who wants that?
Thewhyalumnus is right about one thing. The Mormons were offended by my questions and lack of faith, long before I resigned.
The Mormons never treated me as a "hero". Of course, I'm only a woman....
Once you leave, you never want to go back! I attended a of missionary homecoming. I was a stranger in the ward, and when I didn't take the sacrament, the Mormons next to me started questioning me during the sacrament. I said, "I thought we weren't supposed to talk."
I hate going to funerals and being preached at.
Just the feeling of the place, the mood of despair and hopelessness, and the smell gives me the creeps. Why would one ever go back?