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paintinginthewin
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Date: April 19, 2017 04:15AM
ok I know I am old plus in a 30 + year marriage. HERE's the thing, my spouse & me travel spend nights traveling independently for: training, seminars, conferences, medical appointments, work team conventions, fieldwork, including convention banquets hospitality nights breakfasts meetings long drives and conversations, even sometimes/ rarely even, seeing family... for years, 27 years, obviously, the majority of hotel travel was independent employer planned work related separate independent travel. The majority of white linen table cloth meals were traveling independently at hotel conventions and nearby restaurants with colleagues. AND SO personal time becomes protected. REcreational travel overnight trips we do as a couple. That's including camping, trailer time, tents, not just motels & hotels. Although multiple work travel some years, always independently whatever sex co workers on the team, we always take recreational travel as a couple. THere's a difference. oh, and dates. yeah uh huh we do dates together as a couple, not date stuff without each other with friends of opposite sex- that's that's how we roll. Sight seeing, restaurants, shops, rocks, any canyons- that's together not some one else's time. Work trips that's independent. our relationship is not open, our time is limited, our recreation time is limited, so we utilize that limited recreational opportunity with each other not sleeping over with somebody else or another group away our spouse. THat's not how we roll.
now other people have their own ways, and, we are old. But this is how we do it. your milage is going to be different especially if your spouse has an argument with it. I suspect I sound rather traditional in that I want to go camping I like it there- I like mornings in the sun, in the rain, I want more of them waking up in my spouses' arms again. So, I let him know way back when. And he still takes me camping, or walking through art displays, to restaurants, eating brownies and muffins and cinnamon rolls I made earlier if we knew we could only afford a cup of coffee.
I don't want to just be someone he meets at home, since now we don't go out to church, but as soon as they wanted him weekends for scouting and coaching sports at work, if others have him that much public time, then I want to be accompanying my husband socializing going out oh yes on his arm. Just because we're not at potlucks or church does not mean out and about together is over.
Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 04/19/2017 04:21AM by paintinginthewin.