Posted by:
randyj
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Date: January 31, 2015 08:47PM
My wife and I recently re-connected with one of my nieces on facebook. We moved 350 miles away from most of my family, including this niece, in 1984, so we haven't had much contact with her since then. This niece, age 53, hasn't had much to do with the church since she was a teen. We helped her out a little when she was a teen, and she was one of my wife's bridesmaids at our 1979 wedding.
Last week, my wife and she had a 5-hour phone conversation. My wife related to me afterwards that she told her that after my wife and I left the church in 1998, that niece was at a family gathering during which some of my TBM gossipy relatives were talking in hushed tones about us leaving. Our resignation was a big deal to my TBM relatives, because I'm the youngest of 12 kids, the only one to serve a mission and to serve in responsible leadership positions, etc.
So, during this conversation, my niece told the TBMs "I've known Uncle Randy all my life. If he left the church, he had a good reason to." Meaning, she knew I was honest and not a flake. My niece said that my most rabid TBM sister responded to that statement by slapping her and chastening her saying "No he didn't! He's been deceived!" My wife chuckled over that line, in light of the intense study into the church I made before and after we resigned.
This same TBM sister, a few years ago, introduced me to someone as her brother "who used to be a good person," implying of course that because I left the church, I'm right up there with Hitler and Manson.
Funny thing is, that same TBM sister's facebook posts reveal that she's pretty much as ignorant as the average TBM on matters of church history. She recently wrote me a private message which was chock-full of false statements and misconceptions, which I will respond to as time permits.
Anyhoo, it was nice that one of my relatives who knows that I'm a basically honest, decent person, a faithful, hard-working husband and father, and business owner, defended me in front of my ignorant, bigoted Mormon relatives.