Because I went up to the podium during Fast and Testimony meeting, take the microphone off of its mount, farted into it, put it back again, and then walked out of Sacrament meeting. The Bishop said that I was being irreverent.
I'd been inactive for 7 years. They tracked me down and X'd me for "unlawful cohabitation" (whatever that means). I've never met anyone who was involved in my excommunication as far as I know.
I didn't go to their court. It wasn't until 30 years later I learned what i'd been X'd for.
Apparently someone didn't approve of me moving in with my fiancee two weeks before our wedding. I'm guessing it was my mother.
The church refuses to tell me what went on at my own excommunication. Refuses to let me read the transcript. Total strangers can have access to it (if they have a penis), but not me.
Meanwhile, my brother died a member in good standing. He had a sad life filled with every sin he could fit in and stay mostly out of jail.
It's so inconsistently applied. My niece got disfellowshipped after a manipulative returned missionary basically took advantage of her complete ignorance. The RM? Nothing.
Someone gets a bug up their rear and they convene a dick swinging session. That will probably be moderated, but it's all I can picture when I think of those "love" courts.
The Latter Day tattlers. How is that fair if you didn't even know it was happening? The "file" is all about you, but you can't see it? Talk about secret combinations...
It was a well known "secret" there were a lot of abortions at Timpview/Indian Hills-affluent Mormon families in the late seventies/eighties. (BYU profs/administration families...)
Sorry you had to deal with a bunch of middle-aged men after that experience...
I was disfellowshipped for adultery. DH had full knowledge of it and in fact it was his idea...his fantasies of the swinging lifestyle. However, since he never did the dirty deed with another person...only watched...he was put on church probation for 6 months. The repentance process and reading The Miracle of Forgiveness were what cracked our shelves and we left TSCC before his 6 month probationary period was up. As far as we know, they never pursued other disciplinary/court of love actions regarding either of us.
Require recent STD testing for all parties involved. Also, build up a rapport with whomever ya'll decide to meet with. Do not allow anyone to rush the meeting or situation. Trust is still a factor and no one should be rushed into meeting or performing...especially on a first meet and greet. An easier, less pushy, way to see if the lifestyle is for you and your spouse would be to go to a local swingers social. Also, avoid anyone who needs a few drinks or pot to feel comfortable or relaxed.
30 years ago I was excommunicated for fornication. After I slept with my nevermo boyfriend I repented, broke up with him, and voluntarily confessed to my bishop because I wanted to "be right" with the Lord. I was kicked to the curb for my trouble. I was never fellowshipped, and my parents said they would never accept me until I was back in the Church. In the meantime I was shunned and gossiped about by family and so-called friends. I almost committed suicide. A few years later, I jumped through the humiliating hoops that LDS Inc required and got rebaptised. I was an idiot TBM. I've really suffered at the hands of TSCC. DH and I, along with our married children left it behind this past year. Thank God I didn't have to leave alone, and that I could try to undo the damage it's done to me and mine.
Adultery. During the "inquisition", I was asked if I would stop my current "relationship" and I told the convened group, "No way". I intended to marry.
My fate was sealed.
Sequence of events: Divorce -> interim relationship -> marriage (not to interim relationship)
That "middle game" is always the difficult part of a match...it didn't work out for me.
I am proactive. And I like appropriate /proper action. There was no reason to ex-com me. There was a reason to ex-com Gordon Hinckley - for Lying. As a person fully empowered by god's authority, the same power that the New Testament Jesus took upon himself, I took the appropriate action and ex- commed Gordon, for Lying. Then I ex commed Joe Smith for Lying, fraud, and adultery. Brigham Young as well. Now LDS inc does not have any priesthood authority, not that they ever did.
Good move, smirkorama. We have just as much fake authority as the GA's, so we can excommunicate them. We don't have to tell them anything about it, or show them the paperwork. We can do it all behind everyone's back, just like the Mormons do.
A wealthy, old widower counselor in our stake presidency was caught in bed with our neighbors' young married daughter, while our neighbors were away on their mission, and the daughter and her husband and baby were living in their house. There was horrible scandal, the daughter was excommunicated, her parents were shamed, the husband divorced her and tried to take the baby away from her, so there was a nasty legal battle. The stake president's counselor didn't get excommunicated, and didn't get disfellowshipped, or reprimanded, or anything. All the good old boys on the Committee were friends of his.
I feel ripped off, I should have been excommunicated, I am a returned missionary dammit! I like fornicating and apostasy as much as you guys. I guess no one "loves" me enough to hold a court for me.