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Posted by: exmoreminisce ( )
Date: March 15, 2015 07:21PM

Reminiscing on the business of Sundays back in Moville.

What callings did you hold?

What was your favorite calling?

What was your least favorite calling?

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Posted by: CrispingPin ( )
Date: March 15, 2015 07:52PM

Callings:
--1st counselor
--Executive Secretary
--Ward Clerk
--Sunday School President
--Gospel Doctrine Teacher
--Deacon’s Quorum Advisor
--Cub Scout Leader
--Sunday School teacher for various ages
--Stake missionary (back when there was such a thing)

Favorite: Gospel Doctrine teacher (though very much a TBM at the time, very little of my lesson content was taken from the manual).

Least favorite: Cub Scouts (by a big margin).



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Posted by: exmoreminisce ( )
Date: March 15, 2015 08:03PM

What didn't you like about being Cub Scout leader?

What was your last calling before you left the church? Did you ask to be released?

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Posted by: CrispingPin ( )
Date: March 15, 2015 08:50PM

I never liked scouts--even as a scout-age kid. I once shocked my Primary teacher by asking her if I needed to be in Boy Scouts to get the Aaronic Priesthood. My father and two of my brothers were Eagles, but it never appealed to me. By the time I was called to the Cub Scouts, it had been many, many years since I had gone through the motions of scouting. I didn't have a clue. I tried to be enthusiastic, but smart kids can spot a phony a mile away. They would rather have had someone else in that calling, and I would have rather had (almost) any other calling.

My last calling was really a half calling, though I was sustained and set apart. The SS teacher of the 15-year-old class travelled a lot, so I was asked to cover when he was out of town. I was pretty much inactive at that time, but I attended the weeks I needed to be there to teach. As time went by, I was needed less and less, and so I rarely attended. I was never asked to do another calling.



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Posted by: doubting bishop ( )
Date: March 15, 2015 07:57PM

currently: father and husband - my favorite ones
Bishop (asked to be released)
EQP
YM in ward and stake
Missionary
YSA rep

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Posted by: exmoreminisce ( )
Date: March 15, 2015 07:59PM

Thanks for sharing.

How did that go when you asked to be released as Bishop?

What was the last straw for you?

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Posted by: doubting bishop ( )
Date: March 15, 2015 08:04PM

i am still in the closet about it. the only one knowing is one of my mission buddies who is also disillusioned.

I started a new high demand job and said i just dont have the time. bishops get released very quickly if they ask for it for whatever reason. about those kinda things, the church is actually quite good. got a good stake president though too. doesnt ask too many questions. he really is a good guy

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Posted by: doubting bishop ( )
Date: March 15, 2015 08:14PM

I dont think there really was much of a last straw. There are just a lot of little as well as big things. I dont like things about the missionary program. Had a lot of run ins with the mission president because it was all way too pushy. That kind of got me started on not following my superiors. And once you have an open my for that, it opens a lot of doors in your thinking. I stumbled across mormonthink.com and read every single article together with the fairlds.org views and just saw the church does not have answers.

I still love it. But i just cant put myself behind it the way i used to. now i am trying to figure out a way for myself- it's scary. Families do break apart about it, but they dont have to.

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Posted by: randyj ( )
Date: March 15, 2015 09:06PM

"I dont like things about the missionary program. Had a lot of run ins with the mission president because it was all way too pushy."

I'm with you on that. Even when I was a TBM, I didn't like the policy wherein missionaries could baptize any social misfit, mentally disturbed person, or welfare-seeker, and the bishop/ward couldn't do anything to prevent it. The missionary program wants the baptisms for the numbers, but the local members have to deal with those people and their problems.

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Posted by: doubting bishop ( )
Date: March 15, 2015 08:00PM

forgot to say. My favorite calling actually was being bishop.

it was tough, sure, but i loved being able to make a difference and working with the people. the saints are a great bunch. all the problems with the church break my heart though

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Posted by: Southern ExMo ( )
Date: March 15, 2015 07:59PM

My highest calling was 1st counselor in the Relief Society.

Other callings:

Relief society teacher
Primary teacher
Teacher to 13-14 year olds in Sunday School
Relief society secretary
The person who put the Sunday church bulletin together each week
Visiting Teacher

and other stuff I just can't remember right off hand


I was offered the calling of Saturday toilet cleaner, but I said NO to that one

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Posted by: randyj ( )
Date: March 15, 2015 09:08PM

"The person who put the Sunday church bulletin together each week"

That's called the Bulletin Coordinator. Half the jobs in the church are coordinators, like the visiting teaching coordinator, the missionary meals coordinator, and the hymn book coordinator. :-)

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Posted by: saucie ( )
Date: March 15, 2015 08:28PM

I held every calling that a woman can be asked to do.

When I left I was the Sunday School Secretary.


fun times. Hahahahhahaha.

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Posted by: elderolddog ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 01:23AM

Are you holding anything now?

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Posted by: saucie ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 02:19PM

elderolddog Wrote:
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> Are you holding anything now?


it depends on what you're talking about Elder.

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Posted by: michaelc1945 ( )
Date: March 15, 2015 08:28PM

Ass't Ward Clerk - 2 times
Ass't Adult Aaronic PH Ldr
Good old home teacher- thirty years worth
Ward Mission ldr
Dependent Sunday School teacher
Seventies group Ldr
Stake Choir for temple dedication
Stake Seventies Presidency
Weblos Ldr
Varisty Team Leader
Jr. Sunday School teacher
Cub Scout Pack Master
Out the door and on my way!

My most disliked calling was with the Varsity Scouts. My favorite was with the Cub Scouts.



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Posted by: cludgie ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 06:11AM

Seventies group leader? Old guy, eh?

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Posted by: cludgie ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 06:17AM

/// sorry, not here ///



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Posted by: matt ( )
Date: March 15, 2015 08:29PM

Ward exex sec, librarian.

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Posted by: randyj ( )
Date: March 15, 2015 08:50PM

...upon return from my mission: priests' quorum adviser, EQP counselor (to three different presidents), ward clerk, ward mission leader, EQP, ward clerk, YM president, ward clerk, bishop's counselor.

Favorite calling: ward clerk, because I didn't have to deal with stupid people and their stupid issues.

Least favorite calling: bishop's counselor, because I had to deal with stupid people and their stupid issues.

I didn't like ward mission leader either, because I felt like I didn't accomplish anything, and I didn't like dealing with stupid immature missionaries.



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Posted by: Elder Strangelove ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 03:11AM

"I didn't have to deal with stupid people and their stupid issues." - - LOL!


To the OP's question:

Deacon's Quorum Adviser
Stake Missionary
Stake Missionary (in new ward)
EQ 2nd Councilor
EQ President
Deacon's Quorum Adviser
Sunday School President
EQ 2nd Councilor

Favorite: Second time I was a Deacon's Quorum Pres. By then no longer believing, and lessons were free-range discussions on anything from school to Harry Potter.

Least favorite: Oh, so hard to choose! Probably EQP, because, well stupid people, stupid issues :)

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Posted by: unworthy ( )
Date: March 15, 2015 08:57PM

None..

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Posted by: verilyverily ( )
Date: March 15, 2015 09:08PM

church organist/pianist

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Posted by: Whiskeytango ( )
Date: March 15, 2015 09:43PM

I never held many callings. My last calling was sunday school teacher. I was YM Secretary, Eq Secretary and SS Secretary.

The best calling I ever had though was Deacons Advisor. I never taught a lesson. We just chatted. Later I served in the National Guard with four of these young men. Eventually we went to Iraq together. We were all quite close.

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Posted by: Breeze ( )
Date: March 15, 2015 10:15PM

I always had two callings at once. I was a sap who couldn't say "no."

Visiting teacher was a continuous calling.

I always had the calling of ward organist. You probably know that this also includes accompanying people on the piano, who like to perform in sacrament meeting, and also accompanying the choir--and this includes all the rehearsals. I also would practice new preludes and postludes, until TSCC demanded that we stick to Mormon hymns and Mormon written and Mormon published music. The upside to the music change was that it was all kindergarten stuff (the hymns were dumbed down), so I didn't have to practice anymore. The downside is that the good music is gone.

Organists should be paid! Right, Verilyverily?

My favorite job (after the music died) was primary pianist, because the kids always made me laugh, and no preparation was needed.

Stake organist
RS pianist
Rs teacher
Primary teacher
Cub Scout den mother for 10 years (on top of two other callings, because it was on a week-day)
Sunday school teacher, 14, 16, 18 year-olds. We had some interesting discussions, and I didn't stick strictly to the manual. In those days, I could sometimes walk the kids through a back trail to my house, and have our lessons there.

Regional vice-chairman of the LDS Single Adults was my least favorite job. I liked the people, but the program itself was flawed, and TSCC would not allow the changes that the chairman and I wanted. We quit after about a year, and branched off on our own, on a smaller scale.

75% of the group were women, so, instead of trying to force marriage onto everyone, we got them involved in community charities, often with singles groups from other churches. We had a Holiday dinner party, game nights, a music night, New Year's party, a summer luau. There were 5 of us who planned and paid for these activities out of our own pocket, and we had them at our own houses. The activities were Mormon approved, but not Mormon sponsored, though we always invited the bishopric to the luau, out of courtesy. About 20 non-Mormon single neighbors (men) liked to come to our activities, and Mormons would come from all over the valley. A lot of them got married--some of them twice! It all got to be too big, and too much work, so we stopped doing this. All the problems were a bit taxing, and too many gold-diggers and con-artists infiltrated the group. (We shouldn't have kept the group open to everyone.)

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Posted by: Anonymous User ( )
Date: March 15, 2015 10:25PM

1st counselor Primary
Nursery leader

Nothing more than glorified babysitting jobs



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Posted by: LongTimeListener ( )
Date: March 15, 2015 10:42PM

Elders's Quorum President (x2)
Sunday School President
Gospel Doctrine Teacher
Ward Financial Clerk (x2)
Seminary Teacher
Assistant Ward Mission Leader
Young Adult Sunday School Teacher
Young Single Adults Advisor
Stake Emergency Preparedness (forget the title)
Public Communications Director (? unsure of title)

I am sure that I forgot a couple a long time ago.

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Posted by: freeatlast2015 ( )
Date: March 15, 2015 11:58PM

Ward clerk
Ward mission leader (least favorite)
EQ counselor
Sunday school teacher for 15-yr-olds (really fun. Still friends with them over 10 years later)
Executive secretary x2
Bishopric counselor x2
Cub scout leader
Nursery leader (favorite)
Varsity coach/YM 1st counselor
Scoutmaster/YM 2nd counselor (what I was when I bailed in January)
Scout Committee member (I agreed to keep doing this because I believe in the scouting program)
Could be more in there somewhere...



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Posted by: NNT ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 12:24AM

Youth Sunday School teacher
Young Men's President
2nd Counselor in Bishopric
Ward Mission Leader
Counselor in High Priest Group Leadership
Nursery Leader
Young Men's counselor (1st or 2nd don't remember which)
Ward Librarian
Youth Sunday School teacher
....still attend but do not participate...yeah!!

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Posted by: Leftin89 ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 12:41AM

Seminary President
RM-DL
Varsity Scout Leader
Stake Sunday School Pres.
Bishopric x2
Gospel Doctrine Teacher
HC
Apostate - I knew too much and was too honest to stay.

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Posted by: SusieQ#1 ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 01:42AM

Most of my "callings" were in music conducting, and theater for the youth. I did a lot of teaching also. I was always a little too independent!!



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Posted by: Leaving ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 03:38AM

Ward Mission Leader
Ward Clerk
Executive Secretary
Priest Quorum Advisor

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Posted by: Vax ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 03:50AM

Young single adult adviser x 2
Ward membership clerk
EQP
Gospel doctrine teacher
2nd Counselor Bishopric
2nd Counselor Bishopric
1st Counselor Bishopric
Ward mission leader
Deacons advisor
Stake Yong Mens Presidency
High Council

Most fun, the one I thought I would hate, Stake YM Presidency. Worst, by a mile, EQP.

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Posted by: cludgie ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 06:18AM

Missionary
Sunday School Prez
Branch president
EQ counselor
Ward clerk (twice--I sucked at it)
Sunday school teacher
Priest quorum adviser
Gospel doctrine teacher
temple preparation teacher
High council (twice)
High priest group leader
Institute teacher
Called again as Sunday school prez, but apostatized, instead

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Posted by: hausfrau ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 01:22PM

You were very involved in a lot of teaching and leadership. Any good insights or stories about teaching institute or temple prep? I graduated from Institute and took temple prep, but I've always been a skeptic at heart.

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Posted by: Not logged in ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 07:18AM

Youth Sunday school teacher with husband (14-18 yr olds)
YW presidency x4
Nursery leader
RS super Saturday activity leader
RS teacher
Gospel Doctrine teacher
Primary activity days leader
Primary teacher

Fave: youth Sunday school--Loved the kids. Most were pretty rebellious. We always had a good time & were very open to real discussion & questions so we were often off track but talked about a lot of real world stuff.

Worst: RS super Saturday activity leader. You have no idea how much work this is. Endless hours cutting wood & prepping projects. Ridiculously time consuming!! Don't even ask what a pain in the ass it was to try to collect money from people for the projects they signed up for.

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Posted by: Dorothy ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 12:31PM

They always stuck my mom with this calling. So much work and expensive! Zero glory. I feel for you.

They wanted me to do this calling while I was pregnant and working full time graveyard shift--first time I ever said no.

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Posted by: CL2 ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 09:24AM

At one time, I held 7 jobs. I was a young single adult with a full time job. Every time the bishop couldn't think of someone for the job, I got it.

The worst one for me--basketball referee. I just ran up and down the court. Never called anything.

VB referee, too
SS teacher
YW counselor
YW teacher
RS counselor
RS teacher for a long time
Sports Director (probably my favorite job)
Primary teacher
Organist/pianist for SM, primary, and mutual
In-service teacher

I was asked to be a YW teacher again after I'd been inactive for a few years. I turned them down. (And I live in Utah. This was a real shock.)



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Posted by: Darren Steers ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 09:30AM

After returning from my mission I had the following

YSA Rep
YM Presidency
Ward Clerk
Exec Sec
EQP (x2)
Assistant Scout leader (final calling - attempt by bishop to keep me in)



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Posted by: Templar ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 09:31AM

Deacon Quorum President.
Missionary.
Mission Supervising Elder.
Youth Sunday School Teacher.
Ward Clerk.

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Posted by: Dennis Moore ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 09:37AM

Primary Teacher
Counselor in Primary Presidency
Primary Teacher

Primary Teacher x infinity

But I loved it. I couldn't stand to be in RS with all those phony womens. I guess I have peer issues-I never felt I belonged. So I didn't mind Primary at all.

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Posted by: danr ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 10:01AM

EQ president
High Priest Group ldr
Ward Mission leader
Stake mission Pres
Bishopric
Several teaching jobs

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Posted by: Virg ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 10:03AM

Primary Presidency/1st counselor (Primary president had only been baptized a year or 2 prior and had never had a calling so guess who had to do all the planning for the programs & activities.)
Primary Teacher
RS Teacher
Chorister (started at age 13 because I could read music and the bishop's son could play piano so there we were, 2 middle schoolers.)

All before the age of 21 & while in college. Gotta love teeny tiny branches.



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Posted by: Spiritist ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 11:48AM

Callings (I was in the military and moved a lot and had a lot of callings many multiple callings):
--1st counselor Bishopric (x5)
-- HP Group Ldr (x3)
-- HP Group 1st asst. (x3)
--Ward Clerk
--Gospel Doctrine Teacher (x3)
--Deacon’s/Teachers/Priests Quorum Advisor
--Scout Leader (2)
--Sunday School teacher for various ages
--Stake missionary LDR

Favorite: None but endured all.
Least favorite: Scouts.

Finally, found out the church was a scam when I was a HP Group 1st asst. and gladly resigned all my positions and basically told them I had no time for the church or church leaders. Haven't been bothered for a few years now.

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Posted by: iris ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 12:44PM

Callings after full-time mission:

Primary President (while my children were in Primary)
RS Counselor
RS Teacher
Gospel Doctrine teacher
6 am Seminary teacher (two years for OT/NT)
Cub Scout Den Mother (while my son was in CS)
Primary pianist
Primary chorister
Primary teacher
VT
YW Laurel teacher (while my girls were in YW)
5 years of Girls Camp--4th year camp leader (8 days of camp during the 1990s)--planned the four day hike, purchased food, supplies, etc.--usually did the pre-hike of 17 miles round trip and approximately 2,000 vertical feet)--both of my daughters were at Girls Camp during that time and were with my group when they were 4th years along with their fifth year.

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Posted by: Argonaut ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 12:47PM

Ward Mission Leader
Ward Missionary (new ward)
Elders Quorum 1st Counselor
Elders Quorum President
Ward Clerk (Finances)(new ward)
Bishopric 1st Counselor
High Counselor (Faith crisis starts)
High Priest Group Leader
High Priest Group 2nd assistant (new ward)
Young Men's 2nd Counselor/scoutmaster (faith crisis over, now transitioned)
Cub Scout Leader/Primary teacher.

Best calling was finance clerk, because I had permission to hide in the office all the time.

Worst was a toss up. When I was EQP the housing market had a big shift and in certain half the ward moved out over one spring and summer, and they all expected the ward moving committee to do it for them. By the end, when everyone with trucks had moved out, we were strapping stuff to our cars.

On the HC, my eyes were opened to a lot of hypocrisy during several disciplinary councils, and that was a direct contributor to my faith crisis.

But the worst calling has to be Cub Leader.
No one says thanks, it is completely underfunded, totally understaffed, half the kids do not want to be there, the parents see it as free babysitting and refuse to help out, and the time commitment is ridiculous.



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Posted by: David A ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 01:04PM

Missionary
Stake Sunday School President (married student ward)
EQ counselor
Sunday School Teacher (youth)
Sunday School President
Stake Records Extraction Coordinator
Cub Scout Pack Master
Ward Clerk x2
Executive Secretary x2
I would always lead music (chorister) in Priesthood meeting, but it wasn’t a calling

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Posted by: anon-for-this ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 01:35PM

Missionary
Ward Clerk
Stake Clerk
Sunday School Teacher
Sunday School President
Young Mens assistant
Young Mens leader
Elders Quorum Counsellor
Ward Missionary
Scout Leader

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Posted by: Anon this time ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 02:03PM

Primary/ward organist
Ward primary prez/stake primary prez for over a decade
Nursery teacher
Seminary teacher
Long-term gospel doctrine teacher (got in trouble with the stake for going off-script but couldn't teach the crap they were giving me as resources)

Loved kids but could never get a calling working with them when I was single. Have now worked in special education in public school system for 18 years. Still regret the indoctrination of children I supported in my TSCC years. Troubled me so much I had to forgive myself to move on. Loved nursery. We just played with the babies for 2 hours. Primary presidency kept trying to get us released because we wouldn't follow the prescribed curriculum. I just wanted to keep the babies happy and safe. Young know nothings tried to guilt us in order to end us to their will I know we were the topic of wars meetings. We just wanted to spend baby time blowing bubbles and eating popcycles. They wanted us to teach from the manual.

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Posted by: anon for this ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 02:06PM

Primary President
Nursery Leader
Primary Teacher
EQ Counselor
Seminary Teacher
YM Counselor
Scoutmaster
YM President
Stake YM President
Bishopric
Webelos Leader
11 Year Old Scout Leader

Favorite was Nursery Leader...I loved eating goldfish on Fast Sunday.

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Posted by: Ether ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 02:30PM

My favorite calling was passing out the programs for Sunday School! This was at BYU in 1977. I was very social back then and it was great getting to say hi to everyone. I was paired with a very social girl and the two of us had a blast together. No prep work, no responsibility, just had to wear a smile.

The hardest part of the job was getting to there 10 minutes early. The best part of the job was getting to sit in the back. It's easily the only church job that I loved!

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Posted by: ificouldhietokolob ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 02:33PM

Deacon's Quorum President
Teacher's Quorum President
Priest's Quorum Assistant to the Bishop
MIA President
Elder's Quorum President
Missionary (newbie, senior companion, district leader)

That was it.
When I returned from my mission, I went very nearly immediately inactive. They tried to call me to teach Sunday School to the 14-16 year olds, and I refused -- and resigned shortly after.

My "favorite" was MIA president. That was when MIA was Wednesday nights, and we could do some fun things. :)
I never really liked any of the others.

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Posted by: lastofthewine ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 03:25PM

Fast offering collector, sacrament passer.
Sacrament blesser.
Missionary.
Gospel doctrine teacher.

Potential priest and king, never made it past Private, though.

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Posted by: Henry B Cryin ( )
Date: March 16, 2015 03:46PM

Here are mine in order

Primary Teacher
EQ Presidency
Region Scouts Guy (never understood this one)
Ex. Secretary
Ward Clerk
EQ President
Primary Teacher
Finance Clerk
EQ Presidency
YM Advisor
YM Presidency
And of course a Home Teacher

My favorite is Finance Clerk, loved seeing how many people are not pay a full-thithe, but also amazed at how many people do pay, and how much they pay (Sad).

It was while serving as the Finance Clerk that I started to doubt. Some friends of mine were question the church, and I tried to reconcile it, but it back fired.

I am an active non-believing member, Just enjoying the social aspects of the church, and planting seeds of doubt. At some point, I will leave it, but I am not ready yet.

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