Posted by:
nomonomo
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Date: March 16, 2015 08:46AM
My brother converted in High School because his girlfriend was TBM. He used to leave early every morning for seminary, but lie and say it was for ROTC.
In his senior year, he moved into his GF's home because our mom "drank." It broke her heart.
They also used to antagonize my 1st wife, and run her down behind her back to my mom and others, because we lived together before we got married. Ultimately, they were successful in driving her away (thanks, guys, for helping me out with your "family values"--they were so wise at 17...).
That was back in the 80's. At that time, I knew Mormonism was a cult, knew about polygamy, and that Mormons believed they'd become "gods," but that's all I knew. Fast forward to a few years ago, when a certain prominent guy ran for president, and I started doing some research about Mormonism, and thanks to the information available on the internet was slack-jawed by what a freak show it is!
In part of that searching, I found this site, and have come to research and ask questions to see just what makes my brother and his wife in particular, behave the way that they do. In some ways, I just thought she was a bitch, and yet that always conflicted me, because she was so "nice."
Also, for many years they weren't too pushy, but also lived far away because he was in the army. But as they "matured" they are bolder and pushier with religious stuff. Things I've learned here have helped understand and not only push back but actually undermine some of their antics. Consequently, we're being shunned now, which is hard on my wife and girls.
For example, at the holidays they sent my girls Christmas presents, w/o including my wife and I. I guess that was supposed to show how wonderful they are, even though we are "awful" people. Well, the package got miss mailed or something, so my TBM SIL reached out to our daughter through Facebook to check on it. My wife emailed to ask if they had a tracking number for it to follow up on. No response, except repeated messages to my daughter. I guess the Ten Commandments are something that was mistranslated, because they certainly don't expect our kids to "honor their mother and father" if they think they can come between us. Anyway, when the package arrived after two weeks, the girls just heaved it into the trash. Unfortunately, we've had to "inoculate" them against Mormonism, both because of these family members, and because of the many TBM kids in their school.
Anyway, that's a way-oversimplification of how Mormonism has affected our lives, but thanks RfM for helping us along the way!