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Date: March 27, 2015 05:16PM
Your wife sounds uncannily like me about 4 years ago, physically and behaviorally.
What happened? A lot of things. Basically, I started to do something about me, for me. I got help: mental health counseling, a new doctor, medication, a CPAP machine, trying to eat better, exercise. I still struggle and have a quite way to go, but things are so much better for me, it's amazing.
I've talked to several people who have experienced or seen this and seems like there's an interconnected cycle of issues, emotional (depression, anger, anxiety, low self-esteem, ADD, etc.); physical (diabetes, sleep apnea, low metabolism, SAD, lack of exercise, lack of sleep, nutritional deficiencies, and so on); and behavioral (inertia, obsessivness (computers can really suck you in!), overeating, substance abuse, smoking...)
Since these are interconnected, addressing just one issue tends to improve others, and it gradually snowballs. For instance, exercise helps with weight loss, but it also promotes better sleep, which helps improve mood, and an improved mood makes a big difference in just about everything. The trick is to stand back and let her do it her way. Show her that you still love her. There's no hurry, no pressure. Change won't come overnight, so enjoy the process and one another.
Good luck to both of you!