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Schmuck
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Date: March 29, 2015 01:41AM
I do not know where to post this, so I will post it here and you can tell me if there is a better place.
I live next to a wonderful "grandpa" in his 80s (he's not LDS, but his kids were...for a time) . He lost his wife around 4 years ago.
In 1990 (I think he said in August) his son's girlfriend gave birth to a son. They were going to have a marraige as soon as the baby was born...since she got pregnant by accident. What happenned was textbook garbage that could only happen in utah (I hope). The girls father was apparently a bishop..and didn't want them seeing each other until the baby came and they were married.
Anyway, to make a long story short......the day came for the baby to be born and "grandpa" or his son didn't hear anything. Things were suspiciously silent. What had happenned was that they had the baby adopted out without even asking "grandpa's" son...or even consulting with grandpa's family at all. (Bear in mind that "grandpa" was very resourceful, etc., and money and employment were NOT even in question, nor would they ever be...during the life of the baby.
"Grandpa" went and talked to the girls father to find out why there was a few days of silence. The girls father (I believe he was a bishop of a riverton ward) told her they had the baby adopted out because he had darker skin. (grandpa is either italian or spanish or something like that...which to most of us is neither here nor there...but this happenned to be the excuse given by this human piece of garbage).
The father of the baby was completely ruined and marked (emotionally) for the rest of his life...wanted to meet his son, etc., But I believe grandpa said it was the church adoption service that did the adoption,..and he said roadblocks were put up, etc.,etc., Never even able to meet his son.../grandson. Even though the son was emotionally wrecked,...the grandpa and grandma had been looking for their grandson in their own way ever since 1990.
The last thing that Grandma said to Grandpa when she passed away was "please find our grandson".
I do know that if the father hadn't given up hope to meet his son long ago,...he probably would be able to do it easy with the internet,...etc., At least that is what I hear.
But I am not sure about the grandpa being able to do it as easy. And that seems to me the main reason the Grandpa still wants to live..he wants to meet his grandson. He is NOT computer literate...and I would like to help him. But at this point, all I know is that he could give me the birth date and that the mother was from riverton, ut...and the father was a riverton bishop.
Does anybody have any ideas on this one? It is hard to see someone so bitter hold it in all these years. Even though I believe all the siblings were at one point memebers.. This incident turned them sour and it will stay that way many generations.
Please post if you have any ideas. I am not telling "grandpa" I am doing this because I don't want his hope up