Posted by:
saucie
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Date: April 16, 2015 07:10PM
tevai Wrote:
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> Threadjack from "Missionary Moving Violations"
> thread...
>
> ...an important issue...(at least it is to me):
>
>
> elderolddog Wrote:
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> > If you ever invite me to your home, I won't
> > look in your medicine cabinet, so don't bother
> > spring-loading a big glass of marbles... But I
> > will look in drawers and at the books on your
> > bookshelves, assuming there are any.
>
> Isn't this a boundary problem, and an issue of
> morals/ethics/respect???
>
> I have no problem with books on shelves...they are
> "on shelves," and not behind some kind of barrier
> (shelf doors, in drawers, in file cabinets, behind
> opaque curtains, etc.), so they are, with the
> permission of the owner, in the "public" domain
> (at least, the "public" that is allowed into that
> particular home).
>
> But drawers (unless, perhaps, they are
> transparent) are an ENTIRELY different
> issue...they are MEANT to be PRIVATE... UNLESS
> there are specific agreements otherwise between
> the relevant people.
>
> In a typical relationship, there are a series of
> events which occur which grant "privilege," of one
> kind or another, to a person who began as
> "exterior," and is becoming "interior," to those
> particular three-dimensional areas of daily life
> (drawers, file cabinets, bedroom and office
> closets, etc.).
>
> Unusual/emergency situations aside, it was YEARS
> into my relationship(s) before I felt that I had
> general permission to go into drawers, for
> example...and I still feel queasy when I do it,
> even when I DO have permission, because I am
> extremely sensitive to and respectful of the
> privacy of the people I have relationships with.
>
>
> And there are STILL areas which I would never
> dream of transgressing without specific permission
> (for example: I would add back cash I had borrowed
> to my partner's wallet without any
> hesitation...but I would NEVER go THROUGH that
> wallet!!!).
>
> I think this is one of the least considered areas
> of potential Mo/exmo/nevermo conflict...
>
> When is "privilege" about a specific area of
> privacy assumed to be morally and ethically
> acceptable by one person (but, from the other
> person's perspective, has never been granted)???
>
> And when do privacy boundary issue "violations"
> (at least, in one person's opinion) just equate to
> disrespect???
>
> EDITED TO ADD: I am going to make a new thread out
> of this, but I'm not sure how to do it, so it may
> take me a bit to figure out. ;) ;) ;)
Are you serious? He's joking. Are you so without humor
that you believe he was serious? I think you go too far
for whatever reasons but you are making a mountain out of
a mole hill. You know Tevai, yesterday I stated that you are
neither an exmormon or a mormon... you never answered me
but its my feeling that you are not and your attitude with
this post of all the posts shows you are not and you are
here for your own reasons.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 04/16/2015 07:13PM by saucie.