There's a pretty girl at school that I like a lot. So I asked her out. When I did, she looked sooo happy but she said no, and finally she said "let's go take the bus together :)".
So we talked a lot. She blushed A LOT. I thought she was going to pass out. And she giggled a lot. She looked so happy.

Why did she say no, and yet she looked so happy? This doesn't make sense to me.

Or put another way, what does her reaction mean?

Not enough information to make any kind of reasonable guess.

Is there an LDS connection here? You? Her?

Ages?

Etc, etc.....

Nerves?

Itzpapalotl Wrote:
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> Nerves?
The OP is ugly?

Her age?

I was extremely shy as a young teen. And my mom had put the fear of God into me about how DANGEROUS boys were.

Also, if she's very young, she may be restricted from seeing boys. A bus is a nice public (safe) place to talk to a boy, where you couldn't be accused of SEEING a boy.

She may have a boyfriend but is interested in you too.

My vote goes here.

She was flattered?
She was embarrassed?
She doesn't like the OP and has no idea how to say no in a kind, polite way?
She likes somebody else?

Who knows?

Next time you see her, just ASK HER.

How about this possibility?

She is LDS, the OP is not. She is not going to date an evil non-Mo. Unless she thinks she can hormonally convert him to the church.
She may be testing the waters to see if that is a possibility before she says yes.

I would ask her. There are a number of possibilities. She may not be permitted to date just yet, or not permitted to date outside of her religion or culture. Or she may be afraid of having alone time with a young man. She does seem to like you.

The blushing tells me that she is very shy around boys. Take your time with her and just be a friend. Chat her up at her locker, or have lunch with her sometimes. Perhaps invite her to public, group activities (such as bowling) where dating is not really an issue.



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 04/28/2015 11:14AM by summer.

You need to ask her.

we don't have a clue.

Hey, sounds like it went well, whether it was a date or not; if she's not into dating you, it looks you get along well as friends anyway, and if you don't push it too hard, you may get her in the long run.

However, you may not, but despite any heart-hurt you'll have, don't ditch a good friend that you'll have for years, and who'll be glad to see you at the 5, 10, 20 year reunions....

Just my 2 cents.

You are learning an important life lesson that women are really hard for men to figure out. Welcome to the club. I'll be 70 on my next birthday and just as I think I've got them figured out I'll be surprised that I still don't have it right. Good luck!

Exactly. Once the bedroom field is figured out and you can give them what they want there everything else is trial and error. I tell the wife, whatever it is that you want to share give it to me straight, no filter, no codes, no hints, just fucking say what you want, what you are thinking, etc. Seems to work out well.

Neither of them is very useful very often.

Maybe she plays for the other team.

I did that when a guy asked me out in front of the whole class. I really liked him, but I felt he was just trying to make fun of me. In that case, it turned out that he was, so I'm glad I said, "No."

But she may have thought that you weren't entirely serious. How did you ask her?