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Date: April 30, 2015 11:35AM
Want to share this to give hope/perspective to those that may be facing a similar situation:
I left the board about 6 months ago to focus on other things. Back story: Left church in 2012, divorce finalized last Fall. Ex-DW wanted to "find a good Mormon man".
Well, mission accomplished. A mere 5 weeks after the divorce was finalized, she was engaged to her "good Mormon man". They are now married, almost 5 months to the day that the divorce was finalized.
Haven't missed her for a minute! I am free of the control, manipulation, guilt trips, 'not good enough' complex, her narcissism and so much more that comes with Mormonism.
The bonus was this - she and her new husband told the two kids still living at home that they would have to live by their rules in order to come live with them. This was to be a signed contract, upon which if they broke the contract they would be asked to move out. The contract included such things as "participate in daily prayer", "attend FHE", "no listening to 'inappropriate' music", etc.
The kids (both have no interest in Mormonism) refused. I've now moved back into the house with them!!! The ex now gets a chance to enjoy the every Wednesday and every other weekend routine with our son that I used to have to endure. I get to show them how to live a happier, authentic life in their own home. And my spousal financial support ended as well. =D We have a much happier home.
The divorce was painful, but I have no regrets. Being authentic and free is a priceless gift. I realize I got lucky to have such a short time to pay support until she was re-married. I counted on the Mormon peer pressure for her to get re-married and it came through.
Leaving the Mormon church cost me my marriage and all my Mormon friends. Might sound strange, but it was worth it.