Posted by:
ExMoBandB
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Date: May 09, 2015 08:11PM
The rudest people in America.
I've had Mormons be rude to me, too, when I was still a model TBM. Now that we have resigned, the rudeness is less, just because there are less Mormons in our lives.
I used to take the rudeness personally, and I did a lot of crying, but the rudeness is not about you, but about them. Stop and think, and turn the thinking around to the most selfish scenario possible, and that is usually the true motive of narcissists. For example, your parents probably didn't want to sit in a long graduation procession. It is not a Mormon event, and not about THEM. Being shown around the niece's house, they were probably given the royal treatment, and maybe a free meal. At the graduation they would be one of the crowd.
Narcissists' first thought is, "What's in it for me?"
Anyway, You're thinking too deeply--they're probably not plotting anything. Maybe your sister is pushier than you, and she wouldn't take no for an answer. You and I both know that the Mormon cult (the Bishop's storehouse, and missions) never takes no for an answer. Rather than face the Mormon threats and shunning, they chose to give in. Your parents might simply be beaten-down. Mormons are victims, as well as perpetrators.
I get through the hurt, by thinking that the shunners are missing out on some great relationships with some very charming and interesting people. Your parents will miss out on an exciting time in your son's life. I have a feeling they have already missed plenty. My ex, who abandoned me and his children, never had the love I had, nor the companionship, the joy, the fun times, of being with the children.
It's hard to admit that certain people are idiots, but they really are! Do you really want someone there, who doesn't want to be there? They want to be in some imaginary CK, and, yes, they are mentally ill.
(Pooped, if you had invited a GA to your party, everyone would have been there, and early!) I gave up on trying to have a party with Mormons. One Mormon chorister came an hour late to a dinner party I gave, because she was rehearsing for church (with one other person), and I had to stop visiting with my guests, and go back into the kitchen, and get out all the food, heat it up, and serve it to her. Afterwards, I regretted doing that. She was not a friend.