Posted by:
Elder Strangelove
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Date: May 11, 2015 11:43PM
This brings to mind an essay I thoroughly enjoy, written by former Mormon Bob McCue. From "The Mormon Mask," here is his observation on love and testimony in the Mormon Church:
" . . . expressions of love within Mormon families often occur in the context of testimony bearing or fathers’ blessings. . . Therefore, the Mormon Church determines the main parameters of and otherwise brokers the expression of love and other transmission of important emotions between family members. It then takes credit for the wonderful feelings that occur as a result of intimate expressions of this type, thus harnessing this powerful human force to keep the Mormon mask in place. This formula is seen in countless aspects of Mormon culture. It is, for example, the formula followed in Mormon testimony meetings all over the globe. The smallest children lisp, 'I love my Mommy and Daddy, and I know the Church is true!' in that environment. And for all others, the testimony formula is dictated and it inextricably links the expression of love for family, and expression of certain belief in the basic tenets of Mormonism. The feelings for one are hence intertwined with feelings for the other."
And from the same essay, he relates his experience at a family reunion:
" . . . each evening at the family reunion featured an activity that allowed the patriarchs and matriarchs of the group to bear testimony to the truthfulness and importance of the Mormon way of life to younger family members, and to express their genuine love for those present. That expression of love, mingled with Mormon testimony, contains a powerful subtext – 'If you do not believe and obey as we do, it will cause us great pain, and you don’t hurt the ones you love!'"
(Link:
http://www.postmormon.org/exp_e/index.php/magazine/pmm_article_full_text/the_mormon_mask/)
This experience certainly rings true for me. DD was not very liberal with expressing his emotions (other than frustration). But I do recall a fast and testimony meeting he stood and specifically directed his comments us, his children, that he had a testimony of the church and that he loved each of us. It's funny and sad that a father would choose such a setting to express to us what he rarely would say at home.