Date: May 11, 2015 12:29PM
Need some honest opinions here.
I have been divorced over Church issues that are now covered in the essays. I am about four years divorced and ironically I live in the same Cul-de-sac in Arizona as my ex (thanks Judge). Neither of us has remarried ... PS we were married 35 years.
My youngest daughter is getting married in Early June into a Mega TBM family from Canada. My daughter will be married in the temple here in AZ and a reception and dinner, which I have allowed my ex-wife to plan without any input from me. ( Thats Ok too). I will be footing more than half the bill.
The new bride and groom and my ex-wife are traveling together to Canada to have a temple day together and another reception and dinner with her family and ward stake etc. Which his family will pay for I assume.
Here is my problem..On three occasions his family has flown to phoenix this year and stayed with my ex wife and had dinners ,sight seeing , Church and temple visits in Gilbert. I have not been invited to meet his family on any of these visits.
Remember I live in the same Cul-de-sac and within shouting distance of my ex-wife . While I am not hostile toward my ex I don't let her into my life as I do not trust her. I am sure she has shunned me to this family. I just feel like its not appropriate to do what they did. My daughter and her fiancé had every opportunity to meet me and his parents know where I live ..right down the street!!
Yeah, I could of gone over and banged on the door and invited myself in but really didn't know they were there or who they were until after the fact as my daughter told me.
Long story short is I am not going to travel to Canada to be shunned again in Mormon fashion as they do so well.
I know this is about them and I support them in their marriage here but Canada is not going to Happen. What I will do.....
I will be outside the AZ Temple for the wedding
I will meet his parents for the first time as they come out of the temple wedding here in AZ.
I will be a proud father at the reception and pay my part
I will still be the best dad as I always was.
Put the shoe on the other foot if you will. If I would have traveled fifteen hundred miles to Canada three times and stay with my son in law ( to be) parents and not meet both parents who live so close I would win the academy award for Mormon SHUNNING... god they do it so well.