Posted by:
ExMoBandB
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Date: May 26, 2015 02:59AM
You are normal. My children and I had already left the cult, when I found out that the priesthood leaders had kicked, hit, and shoved my boys, to force them to go to meetings, and the bishop's creepy older boy had molested my little girl--and nothing had been done about it. This was upsetting and angering enough, but then I learned that the whole thing is a lying cult. I couldn't sleep or eat for about 3 days, constantly reading on the internet, discovering lie after lie after lie! I thought the lies would never end! Anger was my biggest problem.
Two things helped me. I made four "vows" to myself. 1) I would not let the Mormons take God and Christ away from me. The Mormon cult is NOT OF GOD. Christ is seldom mentioned. Mormons do not teach, preach, or practice LOVE. I would keep those principles which bring me and my family joy, and throw out all the lies.
This is very difficult to do. You are trying to "un-brainwash" yourself, and you need to stay vigilant, to catch yourself being superstitious, fearful of punishment, shy of others, feeling inferior, feeling helpless and small, and all those other feelings which kept you a slave to a cult. It took me years! The good news is that when you leave, you are instantly happier, and you get better and better all the time.
The worst day out is better than your best Sunday in.
The world treats you better than the Mormon church did. Even if all the Mormons shun you, and you lose all your Mormon friends, you will be treated with more respect, compassion, encouragement, and love by the non-Mormons.
2) I wanted to find the Truth, at any price, so I stood up to the shunning, and decided I didn't like these people, anyway, because they were cruel to me, gossipers and liars, and hated women, gays, other races, and other religions. Ugh.
3) I wanted Mormonism OUT OF MY LIFE. I learned about "extinguishing" thoughts, in my psychology class. Students forgot more quickly, when new information was introduced. The new thoughts pushed out the old thoughts. That was my technique! I stopped studying about Mormon lies, and started reading about science. I studied astronomy, and observed the photos from the Hubble Telescope (I recommend you look carefully at these). I took two philosophy classes. I read beautiful poetry every night in bed, instead of those old scriptures. Novels, the Classics, Carl Sagan, Kenneth Clark. I learned to meditate.
4) I would not rush into another religion right away. When I was more recovered, I studied other religions of the world, and decided that I had my own unique concept of God and Christ, from natural science and the bible both, and there was no mention of Christ wanting to build churches, cathedrals, or temples. As for Heaven: "In my Father's house are many mansions...." There's room for all. ALL are saved!
You will find a cure by going out in nature--even in the rain. Please do this! I was hiking alone, my mind clear, enjoying the day, when I came upon my own Ultimate Truth: We all are One. We are one with the universe. Like Carl Sagan says, "We are all made of 'star stuff'"
It is a hard task to become "reborn."