Posted by:
ExMoBandB
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Date: June 02, 2015 02:42AM
I'm sure she is on her way out. I was like your wife, when my husband found out the Mormon church was a hoax cult and left, and I was still a believing, obedient TBM. My husband said he wouldn't push me either way, but the bargain was that I wouldn't try to push him back into Mormonism. He said he would never pay another dime to the cult, and that he wouldn't attend any of their stupid activities--and then he stayed true to himself, and didn't criticize after that. He wouldn't go to hear me and the children speak or perform. I was alone at church, and the Mormons started treading me differently. I became the wife of an "inactive." No one respected me. They cut me and my husband out of their Mormon couples social life. They blamed me for my husband's straying.
I think if you stay silent, but perhaps point out what's going on, that the Mormons themselves will drive her away. That's what happened to me. Your story of the pesky RS sisters is a perfect example of this. You are a sweet husband, and you don't want to see your wife hurt, but I don't think you can shield her from the Mormons' bad behavior. Just as I had to discover the lies for myself, I had to learn the hard way, how rude and nasty the Mormons really are. Yes, I was hurt, when they marginalized me. When the children and I left, they shunned all of us. My children didn't care, because they were glad to be rid of the gossip and back-biting and competition of the Mormons in their high school. The shunning hurt me terribly, but now I'm happy to be shunned, rather than stalked and pestered and openly criticized.
Looking back, I'm glad of the pain. I needed a slap in the face, for me to wake up to reality! I hope you will be there to comfort your wife, and support her, whatever she does--but some "growing pains" are inevitable. Good luck, and joy, to you both. You will be rid of this unnecessary problem very soon, I hope.
(Years later, I wonder at how people are still so concerned about not offending the Mormons, and being nice to the missionaries, when it is the Mormons who are trespassing, interrupting your life, and stalking your loved ones. They're like robots, and they don't care about YOUR rights, your feelings, your boundaries.