something a guy from my high school graduating class put up on Facebook (we are coming up on our 50th reunion soon, so a lot of us have been getting together on Facebook).
Anyway, he posted a picture of an opened condom wrapper with an engagement ring sticking up from it. The caption: "If you aren't willing to make her your wife, don't make her a mother."
In other words, guys need to accept some of the responsibility too. Nowadays, there really isn't any need for "oops" pregnancies.
Um birth control does fail. No birth control has a 100% effectiveness rate except abstinence and that's not exactly practical for everyone. Even surgical sterilization for a woman is only something like 98% effective. Meaning that there will pretty much always be oops babies. There have been several in my family born when the mother was taking the pill, two with an IUD, condom + Spermicide, and a diaphragm. Luckily I have managed to avoid an oops so far. But it does happen. I hate when people act like it is just not possible or the mother did something stupid (not directed at you, I hear this all the time).
Sometimes a pregnancy happens. This coming from my perspective and my very fertile family.
I understand that it can happen no matter what kind of birth control you're using, but if I'm being completely honest I'm not against abortion. Of course it's always possible for an oops to happen. But in my case I wouldn't go through with it. That's just me.
Hopefully it'll never come to that as I'll be on the pill and bf will get a vasectomy. But to me, it is an option. But that's really not what this post is about and that's all I want to say on the matter.
Yeah I totally understand. I'm very pro-choice but probably wouldn't personally abort a healthy fetus. And I feel like there are lots of people who have an oops but don't want to abort. That is all I was saying. Again not trying to attack you! I just hear this a lot and wanted to mention it!
Why so much judgment and hate over her religious choice? Are people still in the dark ages and think all pregnancies are because they are either planned or someone is stupid. Really?
This is her life, she can choose what she wants for her child. We have the right to believe any religion we want and raise our children in it. Fortunately, in this country, we have a lot more choices than others.
I don't know if you're referring to me, but I never said it's not her choice. Everyone has a choice. I don't even necessarily think it's a bad choice - I rather liked growing up in the church. But seeing as how this is an ExMormon phorum, I simply thought people would find the specificity interesting.
I was in no way trying to come across as judgmental or hateful, and honestly I don't feel I did. People can choose whatever they'd like.
I've only seen caucasian babies with caucasian parents. Has there ever been a white child adopted to a black person? the cost is incredible though $30,000 that's more than most could afford.