Posted by:
hopefulhusband
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Date: July 02, 2015 10:20AM
Hello everybody! I successfully returned from Utah (back home to the midwest) with my family from a (surprisingly) fun vacation to my in-laws for a wedding. Here is my report:
1) The Mormon church has lost the fight against gay marriage. While I was on my trip, the Supreme Court got it right with their decision. My TBM father in law, came out to the front room (full of people) and announced it as if it was disgusting...and about half of us cheered! He left immediately to sulk alone.
While talking to several dozen people, I saw that everybody (TBM or not) under the age of 50'sh was in favor of allowing marriage equality. The few people (all older) who were opposed had no concrete reason why....I would ask, "what difference does their marriage make to you?" No response beyond hemming and hawing. So, the few hanging on to their bigotry didn't seem to have valid arguments other than the worn-out church-based ones. Those people are becoming fewer in number!
So: my take away, the harder the Mormon church pushes their discrimination, the more membership they will lose...especially in the younger generations. (and I don't see the church relaxing their opinions anytime soon, so this doesn't end well for them).
2) I spoke to a relative who is a contractor/builder/renovator. He talked about how stretched to the max people in Utah are...trying to keep up with neighbors. He talked to me for over 30 minutes about examples of this. From working inside their houses to trying to get payments once the work was done....that is an ongoing chore for him.
I saw a lot of homes listed with things like, 'motivated seller!' Nothing wrong with that. But many of these homes also had really new boats, ATV's, etc. I often wondered if the motivation to sell wasn't from their overspending on toys.
Well, a sister in law is also in this boat. Brand new home, student loans to the max (she's a SAHM), brand new SUV, and less than $200 in savings....but talking about baby number 4. Um...wha???? Her husband's job is insecure at best....they can't afford to put the lawn into the new home and are getting threatening letters from the city to do so or face $800 fines.
I share this because on the outside, I see a lot of beautiful people and beautiful homes in Utah. But, from relatives and my own inside looks at their personal lives, I believe for many, it's a facade that could crumble down quickly. I realize it's not just a Mormon issue, but I wonder if there isn't a connection....God blesses the righteous, righto? Must have the newest car/boat/home to look good and show the blessings of heaven.
glad to be home. I meant to try and find a RFM exmo meeting but plans changed on Sunday and I didn't make it to one...so, hopefully next time I can meet some of you.