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Ex-Sis
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Date: August 05, 2015 12:26AM
What are you most comfortable with? Remember, simply because someone asks you a question, doesn't mean you must answer them to THEIR satisfaction, or at all for that matter. You don't owe anyone an explanation, or an excuse, just go about your life/business.
Practice with your hubby... He pretends to be the bishop, "Sister Sheep, I'm calling you to be YW councillor."
You, "I'm declining that invitation." Hang up, walk away...
Hubby/bishop, "Why, Sister Sheep? the Lord is counting on you."
You, "It wouldn't be advantageous for my emotional well being."
You, "My decision is between me and the Lord."
You, "Some of the principles in the manual are not congruent with my current world view regarding human rights."
You, "I'm unwilling to pack my bags for this guilt trip."
(Make firm, declarative statements. They can be as vague or obtuse as you choose. Use vocabulary beyond the bishop's level of comprehension, or use the same nonsense/non-words Mormonism uses: the spirit, tender mercy, blessing, personal revelation, sacred...)
Arm your children for similar scenarios. Prepare them with different methods to avoid scrutiny, conflict, judgement... Humor will help them.
Good luck swimming in the Mormon rip tide. Swim sideways, not against the current, then you will gradually make it out. =)