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Date: August 11, 2015 01:38AM
I am not mormon nor is my husband (we've never been), but his sister is. I try and respect their beliefs, but my patience is running thin.
Here is a copy and paste from a post I just made in a mom's group. Any input on how to handle this situation would be greatly appreciated. I am really getting PO'd and losing my patience QUICKLY!!!
My SIL and her husband/5yo live out of state and we see them maybe once a year. This was that weekend. I dreaded it for many reasons, but it's gotten worse.
Their 5yo is a serious snot who has ZERO manners and is not effectively disciplined, IMO. I am not sure if it's part of their religion (they are Mormon...we are not) or what, but it's clearly gone over the top and crossed boundaries.
It started night one when this child started pointing out every "sin" we were committing that is against Mormon beliefs. If my son (he is 8) said, "Oh GOD!!!" for some reason (with no ill intent), this kid would run right out to his parents and say, "Mommy! Joey said Heavenly Father's name!!" and on and on it went for every little thing. Parents did NOTHING to stop it that was effective other than "Let's not tattle".
It got worse. At dinner, this kid wanted to sit next to my son, but this kid did NOTHING but bother my son. He would lean over and chomp his food in his ear, constantly touch him, get in his face, etc while eating. They, AGAIN, did ZERO for quite a while. Eventually, my son said he was going inside (we were eating outside)..then this kid said he was going in, too, so my son said, "Then I am staying out". Eventually, Mom and Dad realized he was being a sh**head so they just moved him. Didn't correct him...didn't discipline him..just moved his seats (which resulted in a tantrum to which they coddled to him).
Other little things happened, but then this child outright disrespected ME in a HUGE way. We were at the cottage and were bringing things from the beach up. This child had the oars to a Kayak he was carrying. He was about 15 feet behind my husband and I and his parents about 30 feet ahead of us. Out of nowhere, this kid DROPS the oars and decides he wasn't carrying them. I asked him to please pick them up and help. He said NO. My husband asked. He said NO. I said, "You really need to pick them up" to which he replied "No, YOU pick them up". I went LIVID. His parents?? Oh, they just pulled him aside and said, "That wasn't nice". And that was the end of that. He was not made to carry the oars up nor was he disciplined for his outright disrespect to an adult.
He called my kids names (not vial names..but still with the intent of cruelty) to the point where they avoided him like the plague the entire weekend (which, my kids are very social so it had to have been bad).
This morning, my husband had a cup of coffee to which this kid asked him what he was drinking. My husband told him and the kid flipped his lid! He said, "YOU aren't supposed to drink that!!!" (mormons don't do coffee or tea). Again, parents let this child go. I read that Mormon kids are encouraged to point out things to others that are "sinful" to them, but IMO, it's downright rude and I just don't know how to handle this situation. The child is permitted to burp at the table without correction, play with food, etc. It's just downright mind boggling to me.
Any suggestions how to handle this rude kid without overstepping my own boundaries? Would it be out of place for me to say, "Well, Child, we aren't mormons and my God permits Coffee"? How to handle the other ill-mannered behaviors?
Thanks in advance!