Posted by:
Cheryl
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Date: August 12, 2015 08:50AM
I was interested in the post yesterday about a rude Mormon five year old who criticized his cousins and their parents for saying "oh my god," and drinking coffee.
I've taught a few Mormon kids and conferenced with their parents. Most of them were enjoyable.
But there are Mormon parents who expect everyone to bow down to their kids and are insulted when it doesn't happen. Mormons more than most parents tend to take full credit for their kiddies' positive behaviors and want no blame if their kids are sneaky or mean.
These parents often preach at their kids constantly about the word of wisdom, using "appropriate" language, prayer, tithing, church attendance, scripture and modesty until the kids follow this high and mighty example for their own interactions. I've seen five and six year olds who preach this junk to anyone they meet. Their minds can't seem to go beyond the idea that there's one true way to be and everything else must be loudly criticized.
I think anyone these kids meet has a right to demand civility. No one does these brats a favor by accepting or cooperating with their bad behavior.
I've read dozens of posts about kiddies in super markets making rude remarks to strangers about what they put in their shopping carts or what they're wearing or saying.
I've read still more posts about nieces and nephews who tell their aunts and uncles to go to church or to give up tea or not shop on Sunday.
As a teacher my students used to say these things to me and to their classmates.
In the other thread many posters were outraged over the bratty boy being rude in someone's else's home. We do have a right to be respected in our homes. But we also have that right when we're buying wine at the grocery store or wearing a tank top at the park.
Wherever kids are when they're rude or mean they need to be corrected. They benefit from hearing that they're not anyone's boss. Their biggest job is to learn to control themselves and they don't have a right to expect to control other kids and never should they try to boss around and correct adults.
To a rude kid: "I make my own grown up decisions. You are not my boss."
Or: "You're not allowed to tell other kids what to do."
Or: "Use better manners or you will get no ice cream." Whatever they want shouldn't happen if they're rude.
To the parents: "I know you don't want your child to keep bad habits. I've had to tell him/her not to boss me around. Hopefully, it will work and I won't have to take stronger steps next time."
I wouldn't hesitate to do this wherever it's needed, in my home or elsewhere.