Posted by:
smirkorama
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Date: August 28, 2015 01:36AM
My total @$$hole MORmON male parent decided to have a personal conference with me when I was in my late 30's and he was in his late 50's. The purpose of the conference was to tell me that he had made up his mind that IF my mom died then he was going to get married again, and soon at that.
I thought it was very interesting for several reasons. First of all, WHY would I care about what he wanted ???? since my parents had zero concern for my personal relationships, or my personal well being for that matter, with anyone INCLUDING THEM, just as long as my personal relationships kept me steered down THE path that THE church likes/ demands, no matter how superficial and UN fulfilling those relationships might be in every other regard.
MY parents had absolutely delighted in seeing me agonizingly flounder in my primary pre mission romance, because it meant that they were going to get what they wanted -their son was going to qwbe available to go on a mission without the slightest real prospect of interference/ hindrance of a pre mission engagement..... OR post mission engagement !!!!! The situation could not have been much more painful for me, BUT WHO THE HELL CARES ABOUT THAT !!! my parents and their (FUCKING) Church were getting what they wanted in overwhelming land slide fashion. My personal concerns were being put to death for two years while I attempted to give some degree of pay off, that would never be enough, back to MORmON Jesus for dying for me. I was submitting to their dictate of serving a mission and in that state of submission and servitude it was considered weak, irreverent, disrespectful and downright sinful to acknowledge the slightest degree of self interest ESPECIALLY with regard to marriage and the unmentionable related matter of sexual (GASP!!!!!) gratification. In the condition of being a MORmON Elder missionary it was barely tolerated, and only tolerated since it was a necessity, mostly to keep them at a proper remote distance, to even acknowledge that humans existed in female form. And just as much, with in weeks after a mission, it is expected that an RM is married to a female that he was expected to totally avoid just a few weeks earlier and hopefully there is a baby on the way with in days of marriage ceremony. Remember: in MORmONISM it is not about a person growing and developing at a rate that suits them, it is about a person keeping pace with the cadence of life events that THE Church dictates because it meets THE church's overwhelmingly important needs.
Miraculously, my pre mission MORmON floozy love interest was still available post mission. After all that my parents had not done in the interest of seeing that relationship die AND all that her MORmON mother had done in the interest of killing our relationship, my parents took it as sign from god that the potential for us to get married still existed post mission.
I got what seemed like revenge on my parents by being just as detached from concern over my love life as they had been before my mission. In reality, after having the crap kicked out of me emotionally on a MORmON mission, I had simply lost the ability to care. We did not get married, much to my parents chagrin. A relationship can only be poisoned for so long before it dies. Concern can only stand so much MORmON style poisoning before it dies.
And Yes, I am LMAO at the MORmON leaders who whine that many RMs are currently not taking a more positive and directed approach to getting married. PISS ON the MORmON leaders. A person can only care for so long after the emotional battering and totally unrealistic expectations that LDS Inc continually dishes out.
After all of the calloused abjectly selfish MORmON centered manipulating that my parents had done in my love life in earlier years, suddenly I was supposed to have some deep and abiding concern over my MORmON male parent's remarriage fantasies ala practicing de facto MORmON polygamy. It was ridiculous.
My mom has her quirks, but in terms of loyalty to her spouse she is as perfect as (mythical new testament) Jesus Christ. So it was pretty insulting to my mom that my male parent was so involved in making plans to get remarried IF my mom died, especially as there was no indication that she would die any time soon. I was tempted to ask my male parent if he already had a specific woman in mind to add to his MORmON wife collection but it was so unusual that he would address the topic with me from any angle so I just remained silent and in awe that it was actually happening.
As fate weighed in, my male parent died while my mom lived on, so he had been spending time speculating, tantalizing himself, over something that would never happen. There is part of me that wishes that I had been just as nasty, vicious, bitter and condescending on the matter of marriage as he had been to me in earlier years. I should have sternly told him to stop worrying about second marriages or any marriages at all, damn it !! because after all he still was not entitled to his first marriage since he had never served a mission.
MORmONS on marriage is one of the creepiest and sickest topics that I know of.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h3yx9O4T7Ks