Posted by:
dogzilla
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Date: September 22, 2015 08:38AM
Under what circumstances?
Under the direction of our certified sex therapist.
Your original post leaves a lot of information out. Mormons all to frequently use terms in their own way, because those in power want to control those who are not. So, if a mormon has a normal, healthy sex drive, he or she could be made to feel tortured with guilt about it.
I define sex addiction as a condition in which a person has sex with multiple random partners, any time, anywhere, to the point of neglecting normal, basic, everyday responsibilities. It has to be detrimental to normal functioning. Like, calling off work to pick up a stranger at a bus station and banging him right there at the bus stop. We're talking about inappropriate interactions conducted in very nonhealthy ways.
So if I was married to someone who claimed to be a sex addict, we'd go off to the doctor first thing for an STD panel, including HPV and HIV. Next appointment would be to a board-certified, experienced, NONMORMON sex therapist to start therapy immediately if not sooner.
If this is just an argument because he wants it every day and you want it once a month, then just go to a regular therapist to work on trust, respect, communication and how to compromise in such a way so that you're both satisfied.
From Psych Central, here's a list of symptoms of sex addiction:
* Frequently engaging in more sex and with more partners than intended.
* Being preoccupied with or persistently craving sex; wanting to cut down and unsuccessfully attempting to limit sexual activity.
* Thinking of sex to the detriment of other activities or continually engaging in excessive sexual practices despite a desire to stop.
* Spending considerable time in activities related to sex, such as cruising for partners or spending hours online visiting pornographic Web sites.
* Neglecting obligations such as work, school or family in pursuit of sex.
* Continually engaging in the sexual behavior despite negative consequences, such as broken relationships or potential health risks.
* Escalating scope or frequency of sexual activity to achieve the desired effect, such as more frequent visits to prostitutes or more sex partners.
* Feeling irritable when unable to engage in the desired behavior.
What I suspect is truly happening is a normal guy with a normal healthy appetite for sex is being made to feel like a piece of shit for wanting to make love with his wife. And maybe he whacks it once in a while if she's not into it.
But remember, this word "addict" is thrown around a LOT to shame people into being controlled by their genitals. If he has a normal, but high sex drive, but is not running around at all hours of the day and night hooking up with random strangers in inappropriate places, then he could just be kind of narcisstic and not concerned with his wife's needs. There's just not enough information at all here and I am not mental health professional. But all y'all should start with defining terms and talking about this with a pro.