Posted by:
cristib
(
)
Date: September 27, 2015 07:22PM
I met another mom at my midwife's office. At the time I had only 3, was expecting my 4th. The mom was expecting her 14th. I asked if she was Mormon or Catholic. She replied, "Nope, Baptist!"
I felt to be about an inch tall. But she assured me that it was O.K. because most large families came from Mormonism or Catholicism.
Later, as cracks were appearing in my spiritual armor, I 'met' Michelle Duggar. At the time, she only had 13, and was expecting #14. I talked a LOT to her and asked a lot of questions. I had one big concern, because someone at our elementary school, not knowing I was in the room, or maybe not realizing how many kids I had, said the same thing that Inspired Stupidity said - that having that many kids was abusive to the kids! At that point in time, I was a frustrated mom of 7! I was reading every night to my kids. We made cookies together on Wednesdays - nothing, not even church activities were allowed to get in the way of making cookies. I always felt like I wasn't giving enough time to someone! My goal was to spend at least a 1/2 hour a week of total uninterrupted time to each child (1/2 hour, because there were some that 'needed' more time, and the baby wouldn't take a bottle... and with public school, one-on-one time was 'special' anyway!)
I was also really lucky at that time, because we were going to a charter school that encouraged parents to take their children 'out' for a day, as long as it was to go on an educational 'trip'. So, there were many days that one of my kidlets would go to school in the morning, make it past the 3rd hour, and then, Surprise! Mom was there to take them... to a ball game, to visit a museum, run to the senator's office (I had some things I was involved in so got to have face time with our senator), go to a movie (let's see, we're critiquing the production?), or just out to lunch (and talk to the owner of the restaurant about how busy it is and how you decide what to serve), and once in a while, get a head start on those cookies! But those types of activities always involved having the baby, and most times the pre-schoolers as well. BTW, when you do those types of activities, it's actually pretty easy to arrange for field trips for public school classes!
Oh, writing this, I remember meeting another family with a van very similar to ours. I accidentally tried to get into their van at the grocery store, then realized, there's had stickers on the bumper... mine had a trailer hitch.
Anyway, they were here only for a little while, and said they didn't fit in here. They had 17 kids - one already out of the nest. Everywhere they went, the normally had to take 2 cars! I only met 8 of their kids. Don't know their religion, but they were NOT Mormon.